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Right brain/left brain

russ1153
russ1153
I feel there are two aspects to our losses, the emotional and the practical or right brain/left brain. My practical side "gets it", it knows shes gone and not coming back and I need to take care of the house, pay bills, etc. The emotional side still hasn't been able to grasp that she is gone, it just doesn't seem real or possible. I feel as though I really can't move forward until I can emotionally grasp it. But each time I try to do it even a little, the emotional pain and the true loss is overwhelming and sends me on a downward spin again. I may be trying to hard instead of letting it come naturally.

Best Wishes,

Russ
JPMe
JPMe
I agree...intellectually, I understand my situation and know what I need to do, but emotionally, it's very painful to accept the realities of what is. Our brains are amazing organs! They keep us operating in the day-to-day duties of living, but protect our emotions until we're strong enough to move forward.

Be well,
Jackie
silverfoxwife
silverfoxwife
I am in the practical mode all the time. I have shut down the emotional side most of the time, that's just the way I cope. I don't feel pain just emptiness and nothingness. Sadness only comes when I bring in the emotions.
Jeff-Bolen
Jeff-Bolen
Russ, I think you have described me to a T. I know my wife is gone and there was nothing I could have done to prevent it, but I feel the same. When I try to rationalize it my emotional side kicks in and tears me up. My wife passed 10 months ago of breast cancer but it doesn't really seem like that long. My lows aren't as low as they were in the first 6 months or so, but they have seemed to have leveled out, but having said that I still have a profound sense of loss and will probably always have.

Take care and God Bless
Community Leaderacuriousfish
acuriousfish
very true. It happens in other areas of life but it's probably most stark when you lose your spouse.
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