Well done you. I too realise that we can achieve much more than we think ourselves capable of. Of course we miss their love and support but I feel we can also be proud of ourselves for overcoming most obstacles in our way.

Last night I was having a down moment, missing my husband and feeling sorry for myself. I am off on a very long trip tonight, half way round the globe really, to spend a few weeks with my daughter and her family and I was perusing about all the things I had to do before I depart. One time, we always shared all the tasks and now, of course, I have to get on with them on my own, hence my moment of self-pity. I am better this morning because I had a good talk to myself, concentrating only on the positive sides of things.

I wish you a rapid recovery.

I totally understand what you are saying. About 2 weeks ago I was fighting a flu and felt quite run down. It was up to me to make the soup and feel better. Oh how I missed being spoiled just a little. Its all those small thoughtful gestures that are pieces of the love we shared. And as Viviane said having someone to share even simple tasks is a reminder of the one's we miss. But we will find we are stronger than we think as we move forward. I beleive it is in part because our spouses are cheering us on. All the best to you my friend. Gerald

I think the worst for me was the 2nd anniversary of his death. I was nearly killed in a freeway accident - the car was totaled and it was nothing short of a miracle that I walked away from the wreck. People who witnessed how it all happened - not my fault, another driver's fault who took off - stayed and waited with me for the police to be done with me and the wrecker to come for the car. They asked me who to call to come get me. There wasn't anyone they could call. In the end, the tow-truck driver took me home. And when I got home, I had to minimize how I felt to keep my sons from freaking out.

Somehow, I managed to get to the rental car place, get a rental, deal with the insurance company, and all the rest of the mess that goes with these things. I would never have thought I could have done any of that.

Somebody here once said that "strong is what you are when you don't have any other choice." I suppose that's part of it. I didn't have the luxury of falling apart and having someone else pick up the pieces.

I am sorry about your tooth - lucky you that managed to go this long without having one pulled! I loathe going to the dentist, and my dentist is a sweetheart! Does anybody really like going to the dentist?? I doubt it. Instead of wine, maybe try a warm spiced apple cider - very soothing and relaxing. Just a thought.... Hope you heal quickly.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

I am glad you got your tooth taken care of and you found out just how strong you are. I have thought about what I would do if I became truly ill because my Sons are not available to me because they are active military and are far far away. My family lives in MI and I live in AZ. I agree with Gerald we are stronger than we give ourselves credit for. Hang in there there my friend.
Mary

Sorry to hear about your tooth, but, can relate to putting it off, I really dislike the dentist. But, they are a necessary evil, I guess. About a week or two ago I got ahold of a stomach virus and it put me down, first time I have ever been that sick. Didn't have anyone to whine to either, Pam was so good about taking care of me if I was ill. So this time I did it myself. I survived, lost six pounds but, am gaining it back slowly. Sure fo miss her.
Best to you,
Jeff