First, let me say that I am so sorry for your loss. There is nothing anyone can say to make it all better. But, everyone here has experienced this loss and we are all grieving and trying to make sense of life without our loves. Read the posts and write your feelings here. The simple act of putting your feelings into words will help you to heal.

Take each day, each hour, and each moment as it comes. Your grief will come over you at unexpected times. It comes in waves and can seem overwhelming. You can get through it. Treat yourself kindly. Now is the time to think of yourself. Sleep when you can, eat well and exercise. It helps a lot.

My husband passed on August 17, 2017. Those first days and weeks are very hard. You will feel raw. Your emotions will be on the surface and all over the place. Take care of you. Warm and sincere hugs....Linda

I'm so sorry Mechelle. My husband died on November 30th so I can empathize with the lost feeling. Sending you a big hug. Lindonn explained it so well.

You knew your husband since 16 yrs old? That's special. Hoping you'll get through this the best way for you. God be near you.

I am so very very sorry for your loss. there are no words. I lost my wife on sept 19, 2017.. I am still trying to find my way and I feel lost too. I don't know how we do it. but my heart hurts for you incredibly.

if you ever need to talk, just message me. I am here for you and will listen even though I don't have answers for it all.

a million hugs~

Oh my, Mechelle. Your husband’s funeral was today. I am so sorry. He died 2 days before Christmas. How heartbreaking. Then came New Year. I understand your pain and feeling of loss. A pain so great it feels like you’re going to die or that you wish you would. Today was the 1 month anniversary of my husband’s funeral. He died on November 21st, 2 days before Thanksgiving. I was in a daze leading up to, during and still now after his funeral.

The problem for all of us here is that we loved our spouse and enjoyed our lives with them. We were happy before they were ripped away. If not, we wouldn’t even be on here. So what are my words to you? Not many. I’m a mess and wreck. I had to stay home from work today. But I would say to seek out help as you’ve done here. But also, in-person help with a grief counselor and support group. They have helped me immensely. Talk about your husband often and open. Find people who will listen. Post your feelings here. When I first joined, I posted my story of what happened to my husband. That helped me.

I am sorry for your loss,. I lost my wife on sept 17, 2017 we have been married 24 years. The feelings of loss have still not gotten any better,what makes it worse for me is I hurt my leg getting to her when I heard her fall so I have been out of work ever since with nerve damage. That makes it worse because I am on crutches and I cannot do much so all think about is her. They say time makes it more bearable I truly hope so!

Sorry for your loss. I have been widowed since Dec. 13, 2016. It has been a very long, lonely year. I thought it might get a little easier after the first year mark. NOT... I really have been disappointed in the lack of support i have had, but then I live a long way from most of my family. I am trying to pull myself up by my boot straps, but it feels like I have been transported to another planet (like Mars). I would gladly go back in time and just be a carefree little girl again, if I could. My childhood wasn't that great, but it beat this. If you have to, just take one minute at a time. I sometimes think I can make it without this group, but I keep coming back to it. Otherwise I wouldn't have many to talk to. Keep us posted.













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So much pain--I am sad for all these very fresh losses. Those first weeks are the hardest. I have a little more perspective, as my husband went to heaven just before Christmas 2013. It will never be easy, but it does get easier. One thing that helped was the griefshare support group at church, and you can very likely find one near you too. I pray that you will find the strength and courage you need to cope with all the details in these coming weeks, and that you will be able to re-order your life into a new and meaningful pattern. God bless you.