Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
My husband passed in April of 2012, 2 years and 8 months ago. While he was alive we started a "bucket list" of things we wanted to do or go to together. One of these was to attend the Albuquerque Balloon Festival. This year I decided that I was going to go and fulfill one of his and my dreams. I felt his presence there in my heart and soul. The fiesta was even more beautiful and exciting than I could ever imagine. My grown children knew how much this meant to me. They all decided to order a brick at the site to honor their father and I. It was a total and complete surprise which was carried out my nieces. The brick was stamped with hot air balloons and " Life is a Beautiful Ride" on it. Although it was a very emotional trip for me, I was reminded many times of how blessed I am with my beautiful family. I miss my love every day that passes but he left me with family that helps me get through each and every day.
I have never seen the grand canyon. Maybe It's about time I get started.
Thank You!
Bucket list is a new term for me, I am from England, Ben and I also had a 'bucket list' of dreams, First on the list was to be able to afford a big property up North in Canada on the lake ,where he could have three big cottages built.....one for us and one each for our children and their families. He was a wonderful husband, who always put his family first. I miss him mire than words can say.
Once again thank you,
Love, peace and more joy,
Sandra
Jake had a few things he wanted to do and I hope to be able to do some of them for him--like floating a river near here. One thing that we had always wanted to do was to visit New England in the fall and see all of the leaves turning color. Don't know if I will make it there or not but it is something I can tuck away on my wish list.
Sharon, how fortunate you were to be able to experience all of that before Don died. Jake was just not able to do any of that so I am dealing with the past and present and future by myself. It is difficult but I am finding the strength to work through everything and can see some peace in the distance.
I've always wanted to go to that balloon festival.
I'm glad you were able to go, especially with your family.
Hugs,
Janie
Ironically, one of the things both Cliff and I had intended to do was to visit England, and he lobbied for us to move to the UK -- I told him he was crazy. Now I live here. Often when I have visited famous places here - like Stonehenge, Windsor Castle, etc. - I think of him and hope he is flying along with us, and making good use of those angel wings.
I am glad you enjoyed the trip and the festival.
Love and Hugs,
Martha
In retrospect my husband did have a bucket list. He once told me he wanted to see the seven wonders of the world. We visited Machu Pichu, Ankor Wat, and just 2 months before he passed away we saw Grand Canyon. I am so grateful how he has broaden our life experiences. How I missed just being able to hold his hands and stroll along a quiet place.