Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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hiskim 04/21/2016

I miss him more than ever. I'm hanging in there but it's hard and I don't have anyone. No kids. My sister has decided to not talk to me, and I don' t have a clue why. She doesn't like the way I say anything. I give up. I walk the dog when I can, and I'm going to see a rheumy in a week and hopefully figure out how to help me physically, or if I need disability. Life is a fog, a very heavy fog. I pray every day and have not lost my faith, and I'll continue to put one foot in front of another because God would want me to. I'm thankful I found this site and all of you. Hugs and love, Kim

meg40185 04/21/2016

Oh sweetie, you are a warrior. A fighter. I am only 2 weeks in and I'm miserable. I'm falling apart. And sometimes I feel my faith failing. You are amazing for putting one foot in front of the other, even when it hurts. And when you feel like you have no one, please remember that you have everyone here. You are surrounded by people who are feeling just as awful as you are and care about you no matter what you're dealing with. You matter. You're feelings and your pain matter. Hugs to you sweetie. We're going to get through the rest of our lives leaning on each other.

snowalone 04/22/2016

Hi Kim, a hug to you, dear heart. It's sooooo difficult - cannot say anything but that I understand - sending prayer and peace to you.

Nanne

deremusl 04/22/2016

Kim, when I hit the one year mark two months ago I thought I would be so much better. I was sadly disappointed that instead I felt worse. That heavy fog is unbearable. I think that is common for many of us. But as time goes on I'm having a few better days. I know I still have a long way to go, but I will get through this and so will you. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
Warm hugs,
Linda

AfterMom 04/22/2016

it is hard, because we DO miss them more than ever, as time moves on. because the loss settle in as becoming more real, more defined in the details of what this means in our lives.
if you are putting one foot in front of the other, then (as Meg said) you ARE a warrior.
with new health issues added on to my grief, sometimes I can't.

tim57 04/22/2016

Hey Kim,
I am right there with you being alone. Literally. My step daughter moved in briefly then right back out with a guy she knew for about a month. She has done this over and again over the years but I was thinking lossing her mom would have shaken her up. My family have all passed baaically over the years. I have a uncle who is in his seventies.
It is very very hard, but God has shown me some things latley that has given me hope that it will be O.K. I'll rebuild this life with His blue print. With HIm I will never be alone. Please take care.
Peace, Tim

lifeisunreal 04/22/2016

Hi Kim -

It is a dark road we are all traveling. At 8 month today since
I lost my wife, I wish I could offer some advice but I am like
most others on this site. The type and lever of pain is
something I never knew existed until now.

I am encouraged to note you have not lost your faith. That
is very important as you continue to take it hour by hour and
day by day.

Take advantage of this group and the other one ( Widows /
Widowers of Faith ) on this same site. Everyone you meet
will understand what you are going through. I have been
helped through some rough patches over the past several
months.

Blessings to you as you are in my thoughts.

Darrell in Texas

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