Last May is not that long of a time. Your wound is still fresh and raw. I know; I lost my husband of 37 years to congestive heart failure on Dec. 3, '06. I'm feeling lonely and empty inside, too. It's only been the past few days that I've been going to bed and waking up and not feeling so bad. I feel a tiny spark of life coming back. As far as "meeting someone, even just for sex", that's not the answer. If you do that, you'll get up and feel more empty and more lonely than before. Sex without love is meaningless and you'll wind up feeling dirty afterwards. What would you be sharing? You have to give yourself the time to mourn him and come to terms with being on your own first. When the time comes for me to really get back into Life again, I'm going to do things that interest me, and if someone comes along, fine. What I'm not going to do is go out and deliberately look for a man. That doesn't work. I'm 63 years old, will be 64 in July. Even finding a man in my age group is going to be difficult; they all want someone 20 years younger than they are! You're only 40 years old. You won't have that problem. Just don't jump into a relationship just because you don't want to be alone. This is a very terrible period in your life, so be very careful and please don't make any life decisions until you've got your head on straight again.

The reply above this one is absolulelyright. You'll know when the right time is. In the meantime learn to live alone,its harder than you think. Its to soon to meet someone else right now.

hi, to attempt to answer your question in 2 parts.

1. yes, alot of people are on the net looking and it maybe a good place to start. But many are not looking for what you are looking for. Some are but for some reason or another can't commit to it. But a minority will be looking for what you are looking for, and some will be compatible. And you only need find one.

2. You may not be ready now. I discovered after my divorce that I had to complete myself before I could find the one to complete me. Before that people would avoid me...I know, they told me afterwards!

I hope that's been some small comfort.

I believe you will know when the time is right. My husband passed eight months ago, in a moment of panic about being alone after 28 years of marriage i signed up with a dating service but dropped it because i felt worse after doing so, the time is not right for me, i do hope to remarry i am one of these people who enjoy being married and all that goes with it,