Widows & Widowers Support Group
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I do feel much better after storing 9 1/2 pages of stuff for 6 months waiting for the stepsons to make up their minds but....
I got to talking about the hurt and madness of the stepsons thing to a friend. She told me the stuff is gone, get over it. I realize my upset and anger is still there, not as bad as it was but when I do think of it I am upset and angry and bla bla over again.
As bad as crying over my husband, reliving things with him but worse because its anger and hurt.
SO I asked God to get in my head and take those bad memories away,
They dishonored their dad so bad at his memorial and doing this, but I know thats their problem not mine how do you just let it go...forever...
I hope time I know he would not have wanted this, so I guess he would want me to forgive and forget.
I got to talking about the hurt and madness of the stepsons thing to a friend. She told me the stuff is gone, get over it. I realize my upset and anger is still there, not as bad as it was but when I do think of it I am upset and angry and bla bla over again.
As bad as crying over my husband, reliving things with him but worse because its anger and hurt.
SO I asked God to get in my head and take those bad memories away,
They dishonored their dad so bad at his memorial and doing this, but I know thats their problem not mine how do you just let it go...forever...
I hope time I know he would not have wanted this, so I guess he would want me to forgive and forget.
I am learning to deal with the hurt by slowly putting the shop back together the way my honey had it and them move on with my life. It is costing me some money but to me it is worth it and if it helps me to deal with the pain then so be it.
I am so sorry that you have to go through this. Some day they will see their wrongs when something happens to them. In the mean time,,, do what you think is right for you.
Putting my husbands shop back together is what I feel will work for me.
God BLess