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I went in to lay down for a bit earlier this evening, and after tossing and turning for over an hour, I did fall asleep for nearly 30 minutes. It was actually a very restful half hour... I thought I had slept all night
I have a terrible habit of biting my nails, and upon waking and coming to the living room, I of course started doing that annoying little habit. My left hand smells like Shane.... like his aftershave.
Sadly, his "scent" has been gone since just a week or so after the accident, and though I do have a bottle of his aftershave in the bathroom cabinet, I have not even touched it in months. I know it is there, and I used to open it to get his scent, and even had spread it on a shirt of his that I wore about a month after I lost him.
But I smell it on my hand... very faint, but very there. And that 30 minutes of sleep felt like hours. My left hand, where his initials are tattooed as a wedding band.
I think I will just consider this one of my signs
I have a terrible habit of biting my nails, and upon waking and coming to the living room, I of course started doing that annoying little habit. My left hand smells like Shane.... like his aftershave.
Sadly, his "scent" has been gone since just a week or so after the accident, and though I do have a bottle of his aftershave in the bathroom cabinet, I have not even touched it in months. I know it is there, and I used to open it to get his scent, and even had spread it on a shirt of his that I wore about a month after I lost him.
But I smell it on my hand... very faint, but very there. And that 30 minutes of sleep felt like hours. My left hand, where his initials are tattooed as a wedding band.
I think I will just consider this one of my signs
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there were loose beads in the bed on my side of the bed..our bedroom is downstairs and on the opposite side of the house from where she worked on her stuff..and i didnt have it stuck to my feet or anything like that..I took those 2x as a sign and i've wished for more ever since.,.
more recently, I had a couple nights in a row where i dreamt about her...I've only had 1 other dream the entire 10 months that i can remember about her and these came a few weeks ago when i was very stressed about the house/moving..2 nights in a row, i saw her in a dream, just smiling at me..just her face..smiling...felt like she was "approving" of the stuff ive been working on...sure wish i could have those dreams more often..
The week before his passing I was pointing out a flower I've had for 2 years that has never bloomed. Days after his passing it bloomed for the first time.
Another sign was when. I went for a short errand ( first one on my own) a Corb Lund song was playing on the radio. His favourite one. We would go see this singer every time he was in town.
I think if you don't look, the signs are there.
I had put some of my husband's dirty clothes in ziplock bags.
My daughter and I were in the car going to our house in Ojai, Ca. Morey loved this house but it became overwhelming for me to take care of it by myself and I hated the caretaker who lived on the grounds. She and I were talking about how Daddy would feel about my selling it and a car pulled in front of me with a license plate that read "Istill U". We both screamed and pointed at it as it drove away, changed lanes and we NEVER saw it again.
We stared at each other, she hugged me and said, "Mom, Daddy approves!"
Love those signs!
Roz
It became a big deal in our lifeand we wwould laugh together at the time but more about how excited he was about it. I never saw it mysel, so it was his thing.
After he died, I can't tell you how often I see 11:11 and normally just when I am missing him or need his advice. It confirms he is with me forever and we will be together once more when I join him in heave . Sharon