I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I'm new here too. I have found reading the posts in the past few months has been a tremendous help coming to grips with the different stages of grief and the emotions we have to endure, I sincerely hope they help you too.

Thank you, I'm sure I will

I understand you wanting to push fast forward through this pain and grief. You are in the still numb stage at just 2 weeks. Sorry to say, but as you progress it will probably get worse before it gets better as the numbness wears off. There is a raw grief in the beginning. How long it lasts is different for each of us, but I have tried the pushing through and trying to get used to the new normal, but you haven't found your true new normal yet and pushing yourself too hard will only delay your healing and make everything worse. Be gentle with yourself and move slowly 1 day at a time. Set your expectations low so you can cope and take help from your friends and family. Find a grief support group, church or someone who will just let you talk things out without judgement and come to DS often.. This is a group of like minded people who are walking the same journey. Good luck as you start this awful trip. Robyn

d,
I'm sorry for your loss. You must be in such a state of shock. Let it happen, is all I can say right now.

I know exactly what you're going through. That fog and haze that feels like your life is a protective shield. It happens so that you don't get overwhelmed and bombarded with too much, too soon!

My fog hung around for a long time and I'm grateful for that.

My Morey had a central nervous system stroke. One day he could walk, talk and be normal and the next day he was a whole different man; he couldn't walk, his speech was slurred and his vision was blurred. Life had totally changed for him and, as you can imagine, for me and our children as well! From the day he was whisked off to the ER to 17 days later, he was gone!

How can someone so vital be gone, so quickly, no warning. Where is my man, my strength.

Hang on to the roller coaster of emotions ride that you will be on. Expect it and don't expect too much out of yourself.

You will need to take care of business, paperwork, paperwork; things that must get done. WHY? Because, like goes on!

I hate those words, I don't do well when people remind me of them. My brain knows all of it.......My heart is so fragmented, it doesn't seem like I'll ever take a deep breath again!

Hang on, we're here, express your feelings and don't worry about us.

I wish you peace,
Roz

Meant to write: LIFE GOES ON.......LIKE goes on to. We all need to be liked!

Roz

Thanks to all.

Hi,
I really feel the pain, when new people tell me of their loss. Saying"I am so sorry" doesn't quite cut it.....however I really am sorry.
i understand what you mean.....you have a whirlwind of support, for a short time, then we are expected to go on like nothing happened.
That's why I am glad you joined us. I know you are in a safe place, to get all your emotions out !!
Unfortunately, it takes some time to start, the healing process.
It's been 6 months for me, I know I have a long way to go! However, I can say, the numbness has gone, I find at this stage, I just miss my husband so much, it sometimes unbearable, but I know life goes on.
You gave so much support here, thanks for being part if our "family"
Hugs for you,
Sandra.

I am so sorry for your loss. The shock is terrible at first. And you are right; you have initial support and then everyone goes back to their lives; leaving you to say "now what? Who am I and what is this strange new world I exist in?" Unfortunately, there is no fast forward button. One step, one moment, one day at a time. Be kind to yourself and know that you are not alone. There are people here like you, some new in the journey, some having traveled this journey for a while. It does get better, but it takes patience and time. Let us know how you are doing and we will try to help you as much as we can.

Hugs,
Valerie

Don't get too concerned about the so-called "stages" . . . or the "new normal."

One thing I have learned from friends I made here on this site and from the GriefShare group I attend is this . . . each person's grief is different. Oh yes, there are similarities, but each of us must move through grief in whatever way is best, whatever way is unique to each of us.

Some of the best advice I received here was to take good care of my health, get adequate rest, and cry when I needed to. I'll also recommend that you come here to DS often, even if it's only to read what others are saying. This is a caring community!

Wishing you peace . . .

I'm here for you D**** Ri.... yes, it's me...I have been a member for over a year since I lost my sweet Donna...this is where I met my west coast gal...I am glad you came here...it can be a help...I would recommend though maybe some grief counseling...I'm sure your insurance would pay for it. I think.