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ChrisForeverLove
ChrisForeverLove

I can get distracted now but the only problem is, after I am distracted, the reality of what happened hits me like a ton of bricks.  This happens all day.  It's 9 1/2 weeks and I still can't comprehend that he is gone.  It's just still so unbelievable to me.  Feels like week one.  Oh how I miss him.

lauram
lauram
Hi,
Can't say if it's normal or not. I am only 2 weeks, 2 days, in. But I do know that I have the same thing happen. I too miss my husband so much....I cannot believe that he is not coming through the door, with his big smile and warm hug. We are here for one another, at the very least knowing we are not alone. Peace.
scottito
scottito
I think you're doing well to find distraction, even if for a little bit, this early in your grief. I was in a downward spiral, call it a tailspin, that nearly did me in. Somehow, the gravitational pull of grief weakened eventually, and I was able to function. Still got my grief just under the skin, and I know an eruption is coming as I near 2 years post-death on May 8. There is life again for all of us, it just needs to be put on hold for a time while we come to terms with the unimaginable. Hang in there. It will all be okay for all of us. ~~~ Scottie
Lurch0
Lurch0
It has been just under three weeks for me since my Karen passed. Sometimes I still look for her. Things are getting much better. I find for me chatting here helps a lot. You will miss him for a long time. Pain will ease slowly with time. Just find someone to talk with has been a very big help.
Community Leadermarjoe
marjoe
I know you do, Chris. And as for your question, is this normal? For me, it was. Not to offend anyone, but I would call them my WTF moments. I'd be going along (you all know what I mean by that), and then - it would come to the forefront of my mind yet again. And...I know this may sound weird, but it seemed the earth took a slight shift for that moment, like I was in some kind of parallel universe or something - and I would think, this can't be. So yes, I do know what you mean. Hugs, Marsha
Brave1Atl
Brave1Atl
3 months yesterday. I sooo relate. I'll be busy with work, or even something simple like loading the dishwasher and out of nowhere I start crying. Sometimes so much that I'm a complete mess! I so hope and prayer that things will get better. But more than anything, I wish life had a rewind button so I could have my soulmate back and we could live it all over again!!!
Hugs and prayers to you! Hang in there!
Community LeaderShrn
Shrn
It certainly is common to what many of us went through. I have been on this road for years and still have moments of "is this real?" That is a change from constantly feeling like it can't be true. I wrote letters to him in the early days. It helped me to release the tears and fears of being without him. Glad you found us here and hope it gives you comfort. Sharon
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