I'm sorry for your loss. the one thing I've learned in the past 4 months is there is no right or wrong way to grieve. there will be ok days and there will be horrible days. just don't give up, you have your little girl who needs you.

Sorry for your loss.

I lost my partner of 11 years, 8 mos ago. I still struggle every day. Everything I do, see, hear or touch has a memory for me. I have her 2 teenage sons to continue bringing up so that does keep me occupied.

People keep telling me the pain will subside I just can't see that right now.

Your grief is still new and raw. Talking with close friends will help some. The alone times are difficult. Once you get through the initial pain and disbelief, the ache will slowly start to recede. For me, I just wanted to curl up in a ball and withdraw. That just makes it worse.

Expressing your thoughts on a place like this is sometimes easier than talking to friends. I didn't want to keep burdening them. Loosing a husband/wife/partner or lover can best be understood only be people who have walked in your shoes.

I wish you peace.
Alan

Sorry to hear about your loss. Just hang in there and cry when you feel like. Overtime your pain will reduce. Its tough and its harsh reality of life. We have to face it and move forward. Find yourself a support group if possible or friends whom you can talk to openly and the truth. It will lighten up your heart a bit. Talking with parents of your husband and your parents may help. This pain will take time to reduce. Hang in there for your child.

It is a long, long road ahead. When my partner departed a little over a year ago, it changed my entire world - everything from daily routine to the very basic question of "Who am I?". Do give yourself time and compassion to journey through these realizations over the next.... however long it will take.

Gunnerscave@gmail.com here...I'm so sorry for your recent loss. My wife was recently killed by a heavy pc of equipment, right in front of me. I was widowed in '07 too, and learned a lot. I think the first 2 weeks after funeral, after the house clears out is the hardest. I was almost despondent, then found my way to group councling. It really helped. I would get so irritated by well meaning folks saying they knew how I felt. So I reached out and found other surviving spouses to meet with and chat. I was great. I have found some groups here in Rapid City for bereaving spouses too. I don't know how I would have made it these past. 8 weeks w/o the loving support I have found. Good luck healing.

So sorry for your loss. You found a great support network here.
Hugs, Laurie

I'm so so sorry for your loss. It is going to tough the next weeks but just try to take it a day at a time. Keep yourself busy. Praying to God gave me a lot strength and helped me get through the toughest times. Come back to this site often. The stories will make you feel you are not alone in this journey.

I am a newbie too, and I am so sorry for your loss, my hubby passed a little over a month ago. We had a service for him with in the week so I've been mostly alone since then and honestly sometimes the feelings of grief are so strong when crying and wailing don't even work...I don't know what to do with myself so I will go for a walk, clean something and then the feelings will pass. It really feels like a wave, the crying and wailing are smaller waves, but thinking of this like waves might help to visualize how you are doing and could help you get through those times. You've got a beautiful 4yr old daughter to raise, love her with all you've got and you will be strong. Peace.

Thank you all for ur messages, sorry to u all for ur losses. Real bad day today, hate feeling this way, my partner has now arrived back in his homeland ready for burial there, so another long and emotional day, and because I'm not there feeling awful, Wish I could b there to see his final resting place, Life is so cruel!! Feeling robbed of so many things.

Has anyone got any young children, how did u explain it to them.?? My daughter seems to b coping so well (almost too well) I'm not sure she understands it all but don't want to keep talking about it as worried it will unsettle her too much, so far have just been trying to keep things as normal as possible for her, carrying on routines etc , atm just don't know what to do for best, should I make sure she understands that daddy has gone and won't b coming back or just leave things as they are???
Any advice is greatly appreciated!