Cmw, I am so sorry. We are in the worst club imaginable. I am paralyzed by my grief. If you haven’t already, in addition to this website, you should find a grief counselor in your area. I have one. It helps to have a dedicated person to talk about your feelings with. It would also be helpful if you could find a local widow group who meets up and participates in events together. With mimimal family support, you need the support of friends.

Thank you & yes I'm looking into support groups in my area, I need other people to connect with. I have some girlfriends who try to help but they're all happily married & really have no idea what I'm going through

i am walking your lonely road too x

Ditto for me also! I lost my husband on Aug 2. He was 52 years old. We were married for 31 yrs. I have two boys ages 27 and 24. Sending you hugs and prayers!

Cmw, I'm so sorry for your loss. My husband passed 20 days ago and I know I wouldn't have gotten through these 20 days without the two support groups I've found and my grief counselor. The waves of grief are oppressive. Sometimes I don't think I can take my next breath. With the holidays coming, it's really hard for me because the office is too quiet and my home is unbearably quiet.

I wish you peace and comfort to get through this really hard time of year.

I have been where you are and I am so sorry for all that you are going through. You are right. The kids are a blessing and your husband's family can be supportive, but nothing takes the place of that special man who was the other half of you. I am afraid that you have to walk this path and endure it. There is no way out of it, but there are helps along the way; friends who pray for you and invest themselves in you, your children who share your grief, and most importantly, the God who made you and knows your heart better than anyone else. I will be praying for you, especially through this holiday season.

Hi,
Your story sounds like mine. My husband was diagnosed with a Stage lV brain cancer November last year. He had surgery,Radiotherapy and chemotherapy but died 9 months and 24 days after diagnosis. I’m 55 and he was 57 we had been married for 28years and have 2 daughters 25 and 26. My eldest daughter was married in 2015 so she didn’t have the day to day slog that myself and younger daughter did. I too find that although both are families are very supportive it makes me feel worse when I see them all with their spouses. I suffered from anxiety and depression my whole life but besides my shrink I have a wonderful grief counsellor and great GP. NO one understands how it steals your whole life away from you. I took a leave of absence from my work at the beginning of May and am planning to start back one day a week next year. Grief is tiring and never ending but I am finding 3 months on that I will never get over it as people like to say but will learn to live with it. I feel very lucky to have had such a great marriage but it was my 2nd marriage. You find some good people to talk to it will help you heaps and grieve as we all must do at the loss of our partner and our current lifr