Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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MeloinMidwest
MeloinMidwest

Hello,


My husband passed away in May from brain cancer. I visited this page several times during my earliest grief. I think I am ready now. I have many close friends who have been wonderful, but I have found in reading the posts here that I can relate to what you are saying and how you are feeling.



I was looking forward to continuing with the happy life I had, however, I find myself starting over again. You live your life with a certain set of expectations, but those can be dashed rather quickly. So, I feel like I am in an empty space or a void. It seems very surreal because I normally try to be positive and to find some happiness in every day. 


I keep myself busy with work and I have children and grandchildren, so I feel blessed with that.


I am happy to have made the plunge to join this group. I don't think I am a go-to-a-meeting support group type of person. I wrestle with dealing with the grief on my own rather than feeling like I might stay stuck in grief if I attend a meeting. Or, maybe I am just not ready for that. This seems safer to me...like I dipped my toe in the water. I always like to keep moving forward, but there are days that i feel stuck too.


I look forward to participating with you.


Best...

Veronica77
Veronica77
Lost my partner 02/11/14 and this site got me through the worst. So sorry for the loss of your husband. The deep grief subsides but the loss is always there. One day you realize that you are still standing and are a stronger person. Welcome to the group. ((Gentle Hugs))
MeloinMidwest
MeloinMidwest
Thanks!
Msbklyn
Msbklyn
Hi. I am so very sorry that you have joined us in this experience. My husband died 9/30/15 and it’s been a journey. This site helped me tremendously in the very early days and even later on. I don’t come on much these days. I can relate to your hesitancy with support groups. I tried a bereavement group at a church a few times but it was not for me. I came on this site and another, Soaring Spirits which offers regional groups which has afforded me many new friends and acquaintances. I never attended formal therapy or support groups and I think I’m doing ok. I have found that allowing time to pass has been the best thing for me. I’ve done a lot of reading and just staying busy. After a year I still struggled with being alone but it did become easier. Yes, this is a new life and I’m living it to the fullest while still missing my husband. The physical pain is gone and I can’t remember the last time I had a good cry. If you are open to life, it will embrace you. I’m not saying it is easy but keep coming here and post your thoughts. Knowing that others had survived helped me so very much. I wish you peace, Marybeth
MeloinMidwest
MeloinMidwest
Thank you. For your comments. It is very helpful-Melodae
BunBun
BunBun
I try not to judge myself by how far along someone else is doing with their grief, but it is hard to do. I haven't found any joy or happiness yet but I hope that I will find some of that again in my future. I do think that time can help but I do wish that I would feel better than I am, although it has not yet been a year. I do believe my husband would be proud of some of the things I am accomplishing in just the day to day life struggles.