So sorry for your loss. I can't offer you anything, except that I walk on the same path with a fresh loss of my wife of 43 years. I choose life for my two sons, and to honor my wife's memory. The pain apparently lessen's with time. Grieve and mourn on your own timeline, and don't let others dictate this. Good luck.

I lost the love of my life in October unexpectedly as well. Sometimes I feel like I'm functioning and moving forward....that I can find hope and joy again. Then other days I feel like I'm 10 years old, vulnerable and weak, with the weight of the world on my shoulders and I wonder if I will ever feel better. It is a day by day journey for sure. Be kind to yourself. I know from others who have walked this path that it will get better so hang in there.

In time you will learn how to cope.You never get over the loss you just learn a new life now. I have found myself laughing at times and where i had thought i could never laugh again..or love again. I have the best patients most are palliative care and they are true inspirations :) Hugs to you

I'm so sorry for your loss. This is a very difficult time for you.. You will receive inspiration from this wonderful group who all have experienced a loss as well. Grief takes time. Take one day at a time. You are not alone. You have two little children who will bring you joy . May strength and peace be with you. Hugs, Dolores

I am so sorry to hear this. I lost the love of my life unexpectedly as well. I have an older son, but it doesn't make it any easier. There are no words that can make the pain any easier. Take it one day at a time and celebrate the small victories. But more importantly cherish lose boys that continue to keep a part of your wife alive.

If I may add another comment. I received a good deal of support from a bereavement group at church. Hope Hospice also has a group. I believe the group that meets in the evening is a younger group. Dolores

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your little guys. They say everything happens for a reason (and for me I would come to discover reasons much later than I cared to) I cannot begin to fathom how hard this is for you or what God's reasoning is for something like this. May you find strength and comfort from family and friends who do love and care about you and those precious little boys. God bless.

I understand your pain. I just lost my fiancé unexpectedly and I a pregnant with our child. I’m afraid I won’t be able to raise her without him. But I have a lotmof support with family and friends. I hope you have family and friends around you to help you. I can’t say the pain will go away, I’m still in pain. It’s been a month already and I’m just waiting for him to come home from a long trip. Stay strong and positive for your children. I’m trying to do the same.

So sorry for your loss. I lost my true soulmate on Oct. 4th, 3 weeks after being diagnosed with colon/liver cancer, she was gone at 39 years young. It's was 9 weeks Wednesday and sometimes it still seems to be getting harder, but the fond memories of the times we shared flood in a take over to lift me up.
Pray, talk to her, keep a journal and write to her, anything that helps.
You will be dealing with a few emotions in the coming months. This has been the hardest part for me. Anger is one, and it's OK to be mad at the world,
Just be careful not to let that anger hurt unintended people. Words spoken are like bullets, they can't be called back once released.
The lord tells us he will never put more on us than we can handle, but I have really questioned that a few times so far, but I'm still here.
Cry, hurt, and feel the pain of your loss, but remember you were blessed with her love and the fond memories that were made.

I'm new here, too. My husband, best friend and lover passed away just 12 days ago after a 20-day battle with pancreatic cancer. He was only 49. I'm dealing with anger FOR him - he had recently started a new job after 2 1/2 years of unemployment...finally things were looking up, and then BAM, he collapsed while we were raking leaves. He didn't even get to start the fight before he became critical. It's so surreal, I keep thinking this really bad nightmare will end, and I'll hear the garage door opening. We didn't have children and I can't tell you how empty my house feels now. So much so, that I'm already back at work just to be around people.

I'm so truly sorry for you loss. Please don't be a stranger, we're all unfortunately on similar paths, and can mostly relate. It's unthinkable to go from being on a 2-lane road and now we're forced onto a 1-lane road when we didn't even see the fork coming.

Thanks so much for all of the words of encouragement and support. I've read them over and over and haves gained some small relief in knowing what's to be expected. I understand that everyone's path is different but the underlying theme is the same. We all have suffered by losing someone we loved. The love and hurt is different than other loss in my opinion is because we choose our significant other. We don't choose our parents or kids but we choose our spouse and that's why it hurts so bad. But the positive is that we can choose how to proceed as well. It doesn't change the fact that'll it will always hurt and we're going to always have our moments but the choice to do something about it is good. Everyone who joined this site looking for help is doing something about it. We're not giving up. And that's the first step. There's a long journey ahead. I'll will try to find comfort in my beliefs. I will utilize every resource I have for hope and inspiration. And I will take it one second at a time. Thanks again. Let's all choose to get better!