Sorry for your loss and welcome to the group nobody wants to be in. FB has some grief groups that may help. Soaring Spirits is one of them. Have you thought of having a pet? Your husband is still with you in spirit. (((Gentle Hugs)))

Hello I am sorry for your pain. I lost my husband in July of 2019 , he was run over and killed instantly. the pain is real, the grief hurts......baby steps and talk to God, talk to your husband. Reach out and find some grief share groups, some grief books, make a journal and One day you will see how far you have come. I remember i was a walking Zombie for the first 4 months I dont remember anything but as time goes by i can feel myself healing . I am resting in the promises that God says I will see him again because he was a Christian.

Hi, Bernadette.

Oh how I know what you are experiencing, and all too well. The best is to find a way to act as your own grief coach, and that's not to mean that you won't have the love and support of group members here. It means that you have to take personal action, stay active, and find room within this support site to master your own healing. And I hope for you to gaze around and find the answers for which you search. I will leave you a link to information that may better help you understand how to use DS. (below)

https://support.dailystrength.org/hc/en-us

I sympathize with your heartache and I hope for your peace and love.

How are we supposed to move on? It is too soon for you to face that question. Let yourself grieve and mourn for now. Your feelings and emotions are entirely normal. Answers to your question will come with time. Tears and sadness will slowly give way to brighter days. I feel so sad for your loss and can credibly say so having been there.

Bernadette,

I'm so very sorry for your loss.
The suddenness of it makes it so unbelievably difficult.
I lost my husband in Oct 2019 after a battle with cancer.
More recently, this past Oct.,we lost my son in law to a tragic accident. My daughter is a 30 yr old widow.
So I understand the pain and utter disbelief of sudden loss.

As others here stated, what you're feeling is normal. You have to grieve. Take it slowly, minute by minute. Baby steps.

Give yourself time to ride the waves of emotion.
Reach out here on the site. The good people here understand. We're all a part of the same club.

You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

Hugs,
Tess

I am truly sorry for your loss.

Mornings are the worst. I described it as the movie 50 first dates. If you have seen that movie you will understand the analogy, every morning when you open your eyes the whole thing has to play in your mind and then you have to tell yourself "yes it is real".

I lost my husband November 5th. The mornings have gotten better for me. I wish I could give you the best damned advice and make it all better but no-one can. I did reach out for counseling and it is helping. I highly recommend it.
Allow yourself to cry, scream, be silent, laugh, just feel the emotions you are and don't be afraid to stick up for yourself if you need privacy and alone time. Still to this day I prefer to be alone in my home with my pets and that has never been me. I have had to ask for people to respect my wishes.

My heart goes out to you. It is not going to be easy but reaching out to this group is the right step. There are some amazingly supportive members here.

Hugs to you.

You are among those that understand only too well how hard it is with what you are going through. The void a loved one leaves cannot be replaced because it is different to other relationships. They were ‘our person’, partner, other half. It is in our down times...when we sleep or when we wake...the times we did things together that it hits the most. Try and find solace that you had great love for you each other, you had time. It will hurt bad the more you loved and shared. Try to find others that can help you through it. It hurts and it will soften.
Wishing you light and peace
WR x

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry!! I can't imagine!! You are in my prayers, what a great loss. Some things that can help you in your grief are: Do something in honor of him, volunteer in a way that matter to you. Write a memoir of your good time with him, allowing a certain amount of time per day for grieving, then during the day set it aside to live life. Take a good multi vitamin that has extra magnesium to calm your mind body and spirit and help you sleep. Ginseng will help get rid of sticky negative thoughts too. Get outside, walk if you can, in quiet, to work thru your thoughts, something about walking and thinking helps us put things behind us and solve things. Support groups are great too, many churches have them. Again, so sorry for your great loss.

Hi Bernadette. My husband's story is similar to yours. He passed away over 3 years ago after a 20-day cancer journey (ugh, I hate that word). He collapsed with intense abdominal pain and by the end of that day, we were told it's cancer. Lesions on his liver led to discover the cancer was in his pancreas and lungs, too. They never discovered its origin, and 8 days after the PET scan results, he was gone. I'm sorry you're here, I'm sorry for what you're going through. I hope you can find the support you need.

Your story is so similar to mine, abdominal pain and lesions on his liver and they said it was everywhere by the time we got diagnosis.

Thank you to all of you for your kind words and even though this is not a group I wanted to be part of, I am thankful now that I am.

I'm not sure how you move on. That's a question I've been struggling with. I lost my husband of 30 years to a heart attack at age 56. We were already making plans on what we wanted to do once we retired. I'm now looking at facing the future alone. The pain and loneliness is unbearable.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to move on?

I am so sorry for your loss, I know exactly what you are going through. I break down and cry all the time. Comes in waves. I do not know the answer yet. My father died when I was 4 from a heart attack. I watched my mom go through this grief basically my whole life. I don't think she ever moved on all the way. She opened her own business and kept busy all the time - I think that is how she coped with it.

I have found that the only way you move forward is one day at a time. Just get through each moment, hour and day. Don’t look ahead. It’s too overwhelming in the beginning. Over time you might be able to go week to week. It’s been 5 1/2 years since I lost my husband. Today is our 35 th wedding anniversary. Even though he’s not here, it’s still our anniversary. This year was better than last year. I miss him but am no longer overwhelmed by the pain. I acknowledge it and allow myself to feel whatever I feel. It takes time to process each emotion and for your heart to begin to catch up with time. Everyone is on a different time table so don’t judge yourself. I found this site early on and a group called Soaring Spirits international which has regional groups. There is a wonderful community of people who will be there for you as you move along in this journey. Feel free to visit this site and express your emotions. It does seem to help. Wising you peace.

You have to give yourself time to grieve your tremendous loss, take it one day at a time and remember your loved one. It has been a few years for me and I know that sounds easy for me to say but believe me it took awhile and it does get better. I take peace in nature, walking, gardening, friends who are there for me even now. At first I tried to push my memories away but that was wrong of me. Now I treasure them, smile at things my husband and I use to do, as we were always together. I'm not sure if the pain ever goes away, but it does get better in time. This sounds weird, but I talk to my husband every day and say "honey I love and miss you, til we meet again". I feel your pain and am so sorry for your loss. Am sending comforting prayers and love your way. Jan.