You have listed all the reasons I miss my Don. The only one I can think to add is I miss his smile when he looked at me and I knew I was loved. Sharon

Yes...I miss those things and little things that others never saw. When I was busy he would holler HUUUNEE and then softly say I love you! and he always was making up songs singing to me, some made me smile they were so sweet and others made me laugh they were so silly. He would fix my lunch and put little surprises in it my favorites are the doodles of him and Little Man (our little wiener) and a funny caption. I miss everything about him everyday and everyday I thank God that at least I had 28 wonderful years of unconditional love from one of his angels. Jewley

Janice I love this. You listed some beautiful things, I know when you wrote them you probably smiled through tears. What a beautiful tribute I loved reading it.
I miss my Frankie's....everything. Just as you all do I'm sure, it was just so great to read your list all specific. I wondered what I would have written. Don't know if I could have done it as well as you did :)
I miss kissing him. Oh hell, I'm just gonna say it, it's not like it'll be a big shocker. I miss sex with him. OMG I miss sex so much it physically hurts me. I honestly can't find words to describe how much I miss it.
Ok..well, I hope maybe someone smiled when they read that. I did.
Cindy

Glad to see you smile Cindy...I have learned I can count on you to say what probably most of will not on a touchy subject for fear of offending someone. Thank you, you did make me smile...you know how us southern belles are ; ) High Five and Hugs-Jewley

I am shocked, shocked , that there has been no mention of vanquishing spiders ( it's one area that is still a man's domain ).

Bob

PS: Cindy, yes I did smile at your comment :)

Cindy...you made me smile also...
And my hubby's name was also named Frankie..
Janice

Cindy, you crack me up. I am sitting here chuckling. Not easy today here, it was month 4 today for me... More than anything I miss: holding my husband's hand; hearing the word "sweetheart"; sharing a Starbuck's coffee or a McD's frappe with him; saying goodnight or good morning; having dinner every night together; reading the newspaper together; going for a walk together; just coming home and he would be waiting for me; when I would leave he would waive to me and smile..... I will never stop missing my precious, kind husband.

Bob.....
In my house I was the spider terminator!
Janice ;-)

Janice thank you for this....my darling whatever we may be doing and feeling here our Frankie's are in heaven together and since time passed differently there even if we live to be 80 when we arrive they will see us and say "Wow baby that was fast!"
I loved this I loved going over the beautiful lists everyone shared about their precious loved ones, it was like peeking through a window of everyone's past with their spouses.
I LOVED THAT I MADE YOU ALL LAUGH! How I love that! We all know our lists are llloooonnnnggg and that anything written here are condensed versions. On my list sex is allll throughout and today like so many days it was FIRST. Personally , I say this. "Way to go Frankie!!" You did such an amazing job at loving me that I am in withdrawal ( LITERALLY) and as badly as it hurts not to have it, I can't imagine anyone even remotely comparing. So you have spoiled me my darling, and in every aspect raised the bar.
By the way y'all, when I asked him toward the end when his memory was just a window of about 15 mins, if he would like for me to someday be married again, with a twinkle in his eye he said " Where you gonna go when you've had the best?"
I giggle when I think of him saying that to me. He did, on a serious note tell me much later he wanted me to find love again, then he smiled and said "you know you've had the best".
Yes Frankie, I know.
All of us here have.

Smiling through tears and blowing you all a kiss from GA,
Cindy

P.S. Rainbow my dear friend you are in my prayers tonight. God Bless you at 4 months such a tender raw place to be.
Much love and prayers for you
Cindy xo

@Bob, one of the things I am grateful for is that Cliff passed spider-squashing duty to my older son. A very useful bit of legacy, and one I am quite happy to leave in 'man's domain'....

I miss Cliff's mind - he was simply brilliant, and perpetually fascinated and intrigued and hungry for knowledge. He was a life-long learner, self-taught in a hundred things. A few weeks before he died, he decided he would learn to play flamenco guitar - and he did, completely self-taught. He played so beautifully, I miss hearing him play, and I miss playing music with him (I played bass).

I miss never having to explain why I thought this or felt that - 30 years together and we finished each other's sentences - we were so often 'of one mind' that it was spooky. I miss the shared history and knowledge that three decades brought.

I miss his boyish idealism - as impractical as it sometimes was - he never stopped trying to make a difference, to make the world a better, kinder place. Most people don't care about anything; he cared about everything.

I miss seeing him with our boys, he was their best friend, too, and I know I am not the only one who was devastated at losing my best friend. He was often a lousy husband, but he was a good Dad, and it's been hard for my guys.

I miss his creativity, his never-ceasing creativity - his mind was a constant brew of new ideas. And I miss his appreciation for craftsmanship, mine or someone else's, he appreciated it because he was a craftsman himself and could tell just by looking at something the care and soul an artist/craftsperson put into a piece.

There are some things that I don't miss - they run the gamut, too - no marriage is really 'perfect' 100% of the time. I don't miss the arguments about money, I don't miss his lack of common sense, I don't miss his irresponsibility, I don't miss his packrat-edness and inability to see the forest for the trees. I don't miss going to social events and having him spend the majority of the evening outside smoking leaving me stranded alone inside - to the point where I got hit on a lot because people thought I was single! He had his faults, too, just like the rest of us.

But I do miss him. Loving someone new doesn't erase missing the unique qualities of the one you lost. My new husband is not Cliff's 'replacement' - I love Mark for who he is. The two things are separate, and loving someone new does not eliminate the past, its joys, its sorrows, its missing.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

I know just how you feel!