I always hated that comment. Move on? To where? They always said it like I was supposed to leave 30 years of my life on the curb or something. Like you, I moved forward.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

i don’t feel like I’m moving forward. I feel lond of sad if I move forward.

Here's input from Myrtle the Turtle. I am moving so slowly that I can't tell if I am gaining ground. In fact, I may be trudging backward. I'm trying to move, geographically speaking, and it's quite frustrating. I began my packing by going through some of his things that were "bequeathed" to me. So I sort a little, pack a little, cry a little, and wish for a rewind of events. It looks like I may have to move my departure date up a month or so. Any day now, the headstone could be ready, and oh, I just don't know how I will react to seeing it in person. I guess I may still be in denial somewhat. I dread having to tell the estate sale people we may have to hold off, but I am the Lone Ranger, although I think I found Tonto - a lady who will help me do a few things to speed things up. Of course I have to pay, and my SUV has to go to the shop. I just would feel better if I knew I had the funds to complete my move, in my hand. So much has and can go wrong.

Myrtle the Turtle, we move forward even if it's a teeny weeny bit, admire your strength and courage. Some day it's so hard to go forward, we face our hurt every day, we are stronger than we realize. We have no other choice. Going today to the cemetery, put some flowers on my husband's headstone and lights to shine bright, weep a little, say a prayer and go forward. Wish you well Myrtle the Turtle. Take care. Jan.

In one of the group widow/widowers I attend locally, we watched a TED talk. If you google Nora McInerny not getting over, you can find it. It talks about you pet peeve and other things. It sparked some discussion too. I think it is an excellent talk. IMO

Lovesloon, whenever you hear "just move on", remember this...the lifetime you shared with your other half belongs to the two of you, it is unique and cannot be compared, a one-of-a-kind work of art.
Nobody can see the world with your eyes, or feel with your heart. No matter how much some people brag to the contrary, nobody knows you better than you know yourself, and nobody can live your life better than you can.
Your grief, just like your past, is one-of-a-kind, and belongs to you...and nobody else.
Most people out of the kindness of their heart will be there for you and try to comfort you. But "just move on" is not an offer of comfort to you, but to themselves... because THEY are uncomfortable with YOUR situation, and "just move on" allows them to think that they have shown you strength when they haven't.
You are the one who is grieving, and it is not your job to comfort them.
So when someone tells you "just move on", don't feel apologetic when you tell them to "take a long walk off a short pier."
You don't owe anybody any explanations for your grief.