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silverfoxwife
silverfoxwife
A few days ago, my daughter called me and told me that my cottage passed the final inspection. Instead of happy, my heart sank. It means that reality is setting in. I have to move from my home soon. I had this little house built so that I can get away from it all to a manageable place. Now I have to start packing and it feels so sad to leave our home of almost thirty years.
Girldawg1
Girldawg1
It's called the end of an era. Now the real work begins with packing up to move. In that house are 30 years of memories, and the resultant emotional attachment to it. I got a place for sale too with many a year of happy memories. It is difficult to leave that and the old life behind. Nothing ever stays the same. It's just part of time moving on, and we move along with it whether we'd like to or not. There will be better days again for us all.
Marylking
Marylking
I am so sorry silverfox, it is yet another bitter/sweet moment... Keep posting as you start packing and moving forward and we will all do our best to support you and get you through this very difficult time. I hope you have the very best day you can have... God Bless
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm so sorry that you have to leave your home. i had to do the same so I can get a good idea about how you feel. Just know that you can always vent here. It won't be easy, but it is amazing how strong we can be when we have to.
silverfoxwife
silverfoxwife
Thank you Girldawg1, Marylking and Pattoderian for all your support. Yes, it's the end of an era. My newest grandson was born this year and never had the opportunity to meet grandpa. My daughter moved in for a few months so the baby has lived here for a little while. My daughter was glad that her husband and the baby would have the memories of living in our family home before it is for sale.
Patriciavara
Patriciavara
I lost my husband 4 months ago. I will be in your shoes down the road a bit, as I have decided to relocate closer to my son. I will be able to help take care of my grandson, so he won't have to go to after school care. I am not looking forward to the day I move, since we have been here 28 years. I get excited about a new start but I know it will be difficult. I just sold and moved from our second home out of state and that was hard enough. I just try not to get ahead of myself, and get anxious, so I take one day at a time. Take good care.....patricia
deleted_user
deleted_user
[[[HUGS]]]

Another of many losses that come w/the death of a spouse ...
Peace & Blessings ...
Community Leaderacuriousfish
acuriousfish
I'm sorry you are going through this, I wish you brighter days in your new home
papagena
papagena
It will be hard but view it as a new beginning. I moved from our house to new premises 3 months ago and I do not regret it. I knew it was the reasonable thing to do, I found the actual move stressing but I view my/our happy times in the old family house as belonging to another era of my life.

Parcel up also your past happiness and happy memories you had in your old house and embrace your future life in a new place. Not easy but worth it. No one can take your memories away.

I wish you strength and courage.
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