Widows & Widowers Support Group

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Missing my wife

kevin68
kevin68

my beautiful wife died 10 months ago from a 2 1/2 year fight with cancer and I have been falling Apart sense. I've been trying to find some purpose in my life,  dealing with the pain and darkness is like a full-time job. I feel very lost and alone, there are not many support groups for widowers who are younger.  I came across this site and just decided to give it a shot and reach out.

kdg2016
kdg2016
Sorry to hear about your wife. My husband died Aug 2016, and believe me it is so hard. I'm not working so I'm home alone most of the time. Really no friends, or family who checks on me. I am just learning to adapt to being alone. I don't know what God has in store for me but I know he won't leave me so I lean on him every second of the day. Maybe one day it will get better but of course you will never get over losing the love of your life. I will pray for peace for you. Hang in there cause God will bring you through, but you must have patience which to me is the hardest thing to deal with. I want the hurt to stop NOW but it takes time HUGS
sarah26
sarah26
that's exactly my feeling every single day,its not easy and you feel this dark cloud inside you,it even reached a point I argued with my mum and its something I have never done before,I just feel like everything have changed and nothing matters the same,its such a hard journey but God knows!
jdp
jdp
We have been thrown a major upheaval in our lives.
Give yourself time....
One day @ a time, face what comes, be it tears or adjusting to the responsibilities that have become yours.
Are there activities you participated in before your wife became ill that you could resume now?
It helps to fill the time.....
Life is a changing journey
jdp
kevin68
kevin68
Thank you for the kind words, I look at people who lost someone they love years ago and I am amazed they can keep going. My lust for life and any faith has been torn apart, god and I are not on talking terms right now. It was 3 years of taking care so Susie and I can't remember the feeling of being carefree or truly happy. I was honored that I was the Person that got to take care of her and be there in her last moments but damn the scars it leaves.
Olay39
Olay39
Kevin, it takes time as time heals the wound. Mine has been 5years since hubby passed away. It has been God!
Jdhayes
Jdhayes
I know how you feel. It will be 3 months for me on the 29th and I still can't talk to God. I know that he is in a better place, free of pain and sorrow, but I still question God in all this. How can I lean on Him when I am so mad?
iiSUNSHiN3
iiSUNSHiN3
I'm so sorry for your loss. The pain of losing the ones we love most are unbearable. I pray your able to find solace and strength. It's so hard watching the ones we love slip away right before our eyes. I commend you for being there for her in her darkest moments. I can only guess how much that meant to her. May your burdened heart be lifted and I pray out of the darkness comes light and life.