Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
My fiance died a year and 9 months ago. here lately its been hitting me harder like when it first happen. we were supposed to get married a month before he died in a car accident and i think the hardest thing to me is everyday remembering what my last words to him was and the sight i seen afte rthe wreck. it replays over and over in my head daily and i just dont know how to let that go.
Gatormom
Perhaps a support group or sessions with a therapist/psychologist will help, especially if you are having guilt or remorse.
debbielu
I'm so sorry for your loss. It had to have been very traumatic for you. I agree with Gatormom. You might benefit from some professional counseling. Prayers are with you.
Lielie
I also replay the last moments jn my head, and try to think what i could have done different so my husband cab still be with me. The kids are seeing our pastor and they are doing ok. I am sgill to o raw, 6 weeks, but know i will have to .sometime. Strength and prayers to you
Unique
I had the same problem. My husband died 7 months ago. I was replaying that night over and over in my mind. Waking up to his gasping for air, calling 911, the feel of his skin, giving him CPR, the EMTs, the hospital etc etc. I'm receiving EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) therapy. It is given to people who have experienced trauma and PTSD. I highly recommend it. It has helped me tremendously. Peace and hugs to you.
MothSpirit
I am new to the group and have not told my story yet only responding to a few posts. My artist husband of 44 years died 8 months ago. I get flashes of that last day but don't play over. He died at home in his art studio in a hospital bed with hospice help. I am getting bereavement therapy, massage and joined a yoga class for seniors (I am the youngest at 68). He was 82 and had cancer 2 years, one kind went into remission and was back painting again, Then another kind hit and even though he got immunotherapy instead of straight chemo. his immune system too compromised and he didn't make it. I have very good days and also low days when I don't see the point of being here without him trying to have a life I don't really enjoy because we shared everything, movies, trips, talking in bed, meals, listening to music. I know it gets better and people to share this deep pain with is one of the best things we can do, put our spiritual arms around each other and hug and pray. Peace to you, and I was really touched by your story. Sudden loss must be even more difficult than the slow downward slope of illness. Do see a professional or group therapy, it will help. My prayers for you.
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