I know it hurts. It hurts so bad breathing was an effort. Your wife was so young to die and you're too young not to have her by your side. I lost my husband at age 60 and that felt too young too. We never have enough time and live so innocently of what the future holds. I'm sorry for your loss and am here for you to listen and care. Sharon

I know it hurts. We're here for you, and we understand you. Please come here often. We'll do our best to hold you up and comfort you. I don't know if I could have survived this far without DSWW. This is a good place to be. You can say anything here and we'll support you in your journey of grief. I pray for all of us every day as do many others here. We'll all be there for you whether we pray or not. Hugs and love, Kim

I know, Garry, I know. All of us here feel your pain. I'm so sorry. Just know that I'm right there with you. Just breathe, my friend. One minute at a time.

Wishing you comfort,
Linda

I'm so sorry Garry. One minute at a time. We will survive this nightmare.

I feel your pain, too. I am so sorry. I hope we survive this hurt. Just being able to talk about it helps. So good to have this site..

Garry it may alway hurt. It will take a good 6 to 8 months to even get past the denial that our loves ones are passed on. Then it just takes time, you may always be sad about your wife, and that is completely normal. Your love, never dies, because they do physically, and there is nothing wrong with talking to your doctor, to help just take the edge off, so you can just plain and simply function. Im giving you a gentle hug. much love, and hugs carla

I know it, Garry. There's nothing I can say that will make this better for you. But we're here for you. Marsha

Hi Garry -

I can feel your pain through your brief post. I can feel it as I feel my own non-stop pain as well.

My wife has now been gone a little over four months. Still, last night I was sitting in a chair at our home and had the television remote control in my hand. I finished watching a very brief news program and, without turning my head, asked her if there was anything she wanted to watch. She didn't answer and I turned and looked at her
recliner and it was empty. I don't know how it happened but just for a few moments reality had escaped me. A mental pain and a physical pain hit me at the same time. It was though someone had just stuck a knife in my body while my brain was about to explode.

I lit a candle and placed it next to a photo of her. The candle is to maintain contact with reality while it also represents my love for her that is now deeper than ever before. Today, I stopped a bought a large box of candles. She loved candles.

Garry - Hang on tight with the attacks of pain. Just remember the pain exists only because of your love for her.. Never let go of that for even a moment.

You are in my prayers.

Darrell