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nikkigalloway
nikkigalloway
My name is Victoria. My husband David and I had known each other since grade school. After we both had divorced from a previous marriage we met again on FaceBook. We've been together for 5 years and married for 3 of those years. Aug 5 2015 my sweet David was killed in a freak and horrific logging accident. I know it's not been a month yet and I hear time heals all wounds. My heart is breaking and I have nightmares of his accident. I'm having a difficult time adjusting to life without him. I got custody of his 9 yr old daughter and I'm raising her as my own. I joined this group in hopes that others in the grieving process might could give advice and things that help and just to have somewhere to vent without judgement and have someone to talk to that knows the feelings and emotions I'm going through.
mvaba
mvaba
Hi Victoria. My name is Jo. My husband passed away on 15th August this year. He had leukaemia. I love him with all my heart and being and the pain of having to go on without him is sometimes terrifying. I am finding out more and more about the grieving process and it is not just being sad but learning to live a different life. I have gone online to try and get more information. Grief is such a short word but it involves many many emotions and changes. I am assured by everyone on here that it will get easier. We are both in the very early stages of grief so have a long way to go. My husband's funeral is tomorrow so I have yet to get over that hurdle. There is information online to help you understand. Understanding it helps to bear it. Jo
bookdragon
bookdragon
Victoria-I am so sorry for your loss. This site is a lifeline for people going through the grief journey. We welcome you with open arms and encourage venting! I believe losing a spouse is like nothing we have gone through and it is a journey you can't prepare for. Take care of yourself. Hugs Patti
scottito
scottito
Hi Victoria, Welcome. I am so sorry for your loss. As from all of us here, we really do get what you must be going through. It is sad. It is hard. But just believe that you will come through it stronger than before (I do). I am so proud of you for raising his daughter as your own. You really do need each other to love. God bless you. ~ Scott

And Jo, I have the Lord to comfort you tomorrow at your husband's funeral. You don't have to be strong for anybody.
lmj90
lmj90
So very sorry for your loss. The grief journey will take many twists and turns but we will all be here to help. Its not easy and at times its horrible. Lose of a spouse is in my opinion the worst. You are in the very early stages and from here you will experience many things and some of those you will no longer recognize. Sending you strength and prayers
deleted_user
deleted_user
Victoria, I'm so sorry for your loss of David. It's such a winding road ahead for you. It will seem like there's no end and the twists and turns of emotions will catch you off guard, at times.

I promise you that what you're feeling will lessen in intensity and although the hurt stays, it doesn't feel so much like a sledge hammer hitting you every minute. Time will be your friend.

Get as much sleep as you can and make sure that you eat and keep people around you who nurture your heart and soul.

We're here for you and know EXACTLY what you're going through.

Warmly,
Roz
Coop84
Coop84
Dear Nikki, I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the site that none of us want to belong to but I am so thankful to all of the wonderful friends on DS. We get what you are going thru. You are in the very early stages of grieve so be gentle on yourself. As we all say ,baby steps at first. Come here often and we will walk with you through this horrible journey! So glad your daughtebr is with you. I am at 15 months and assure you the days do get gentlier! Hugs. Sue.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Jo, I want to wish you peace and love at your dear husband's funeral. It will be a difficult day and the pain will seem unrelenting. I'm so sorry.

We're here for you.

Warmly,
Roz
nicholasm
nicholasm
I want to quote someone on this site who i believe was quoting someone else that helped me a bit. Paraphrasing:

Grief is like manure, spreed it out and it fertilizes leave it in a pile it smells like shit

I dont know why but i relate to that, i try not to grieve all day long but make time each day to cry
kkg17
kkg17
Its so good of you to raise he daughter. Hopefully during this horrible time, the two of you can cling to each other in your grief and find love and support. Hugs. So sorry for your loss.
Community LeaderShrn
Shrn
My name is Sharon and my husband died from lung cancer 10 weeks after diagnosis. It's been 8 years now and I am here to say that you will survive this horrible time. Sharon
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