Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
Hi all,
Because this is the Widows and Widowers Support group and I think this would resonate with you guys, I wanted to share an memorial essay for my wife that I recently had published online on Entropy Magazine. It's called "Cockroaches in my Cookbooks" and is about our shared love of cooking and my emotions now that she is gone.
Here's the essay: http://entropymag.org/cockroaches-in-my-cookbooks/
Writing this was very emotional for me. I lost my wife to suicide three years ago this month and as always in the month of October the death hurts the most. I arranged to have this published a few days after her deathiversary which felt fitting.
Thanks for reading.
Because this is the Widows and Widowers Support group and I think this would resonate with you guys, I wanted to share an memorial essay for my wife that I recently had published online on Entropy Magazine. It's called "Cockroaches in my Cookbooks" and is about our shared love of cooking and my emotions now that she is gone.
Here's the essay: http://entropymag.org/cockroaches-in-my-cookbooks/
Writing this was very emotional for me. I lost my wife to suicide three years ago this month and as always in the month of October the death hurts the most. I arranged to have this published a few days after her deathiversary which felt fitting.
Thanks for reading.
Heartfelt thoughts are with you
Darcie
Hugs,
Val
The sentence that resonates so strongly with me is "I see she is gone forever and with her the great glittering world the two of us held in our hands for such a short time. "
All the best. Anniversaries are so tough (I prefer your term deathiversary to angelversary by the way and, as an aside, note that one of the things I appreciate about this site is that I can even say thoughts like that out loud here)
Sandy
I feel like it is part of my duty as her widow to keep her memory alive and remember her always. I appreciate the joys my wife and I had together. I will always fondly remember those times.
Oh, SandyVI," deathiversary" is a phrase that I made up as a partner to my wife's phrase "monthaversary" which was where we would have dinner date night and celebrate every night month anniversary we had been together, always on the third of the month.
The phrase "deathiversary" sounds like something my wife would say and what described the situation, the very real situation of the anniversary of your spouse's death. I just went through that on October 15 of this month and I'm still reeling.
I feel I need a word for this concept I use and am affected by so much and I like compound words. It is not meant in any way to be disrepectful, I use it in all due solemnity.