Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
hi, my name is Michael and I lost my boyfriend back in June before we could even pop the question to each other and the hard part was finding out that we both felt the same way towards each other, we were even best friends back in highschool and now all I can think about is that i lost the love of my life and how I'll never be able to hold his hand again or say I love you, and the worst part is waking up in an empty bed where he should of been. Each day has been a pain just to get through and it keeps getting harder and harder as the time goes by but I still feel like I'm stuck in time because I feel like I lost my life the night that my boyfriend died.
I'm so sorry for your heartache and the loss of your beloved boyfriend. My husband passed away 38 days ago. It's still incredibly raw, but I'm putting one foot in front of the other and doing my best to get through each day. Some days are incredibly hard as you know. I'm seeing a grief counselor which is helping a lot. She's helping me see that the years we had together are a gift and helping me not be focused on what I don't have. Definitely easier said than done. She also is helping me focus on much smaller increments of time. I get overwhelmed thinking of days and weeks in the future, instead I'm focusing on the next hour, or next 5 minutes if it's really bad.
Would your boyfriend want you to be this sad? Would he want you to give up living? I'm pretty sure that he's cheering you on and wanting you to find some joy again. It's like we're living FOR them as well.
Hugs to you. Please take care of yourself!