Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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Paulk 07/02/2016

I lost my wife of 25 years one month ago

she was not sick and she passed away at our house totally unexpectedly

i am living one day at a time. I feel guilt, sorrow and just a sense of total chaos

patriciapattersongoo 07/02/2016

I'm so sorry:( all I can say is I feel your pain . I was married to Tommy for 36 years, it's been almost 5 months. Some days I don't even want to live. But I keep pushing on. It's exhausting. There is some great people hear and they have great advice. I woke up crying today , just a sad day .i have ok days and bad days. Just hang in and try to reach out, it's not always easy.

xxxx
Patricia

daisy146 07/02/2016

I also feel your pain and am so sorry. I lost my husband of 42 years in August of 2014. He also passed away at our house totally unexpectedly. It's been almost 2 years for me and it seems like time has stood still. It is very hard but looking back I see that I have come a long way. My best advice is to take it one day at a time and realize that it is OK to be sad, you lost part of your heart.

MissinLilBear 07/02/2016

I lost my wife of 40 years unexpectedly at home and it devastated me. That was 6 years ago and I can say that I have a good life now, not the same life or the expected life but good. I think of my "Lil' Bear" often but more times than not it puts a smile on my face rather than a tear in my eye. Keep moving forward...

letmehelpyou 07/02/2016

I am so very sorry for your loss. It is all small steps, one day at a time. It is okay to grieve, to feel like your life is in total chaos. Simple advice, but true. Try to eat, try to stay hydrated. Try to sleep when you can. Grief takes a lot out of you. I have been widowed now for five years and I live a good life that I love. It takes time and working through the grief. Come here and vent whenever you want. We all understand.

Hugs,
Val

mysweetie2 07/02/2016

I'm sorry for the loss of your wife. My husband (Dennis) also passed at home in his sleep. found him.
I think guilt is one of the worst, most useless emotion we can have. It took me a long time to except.
We all have those what if moments. You are in the early stages of grieving, just go through all the emotions you are feelings. It's not a race, there is no expiration date on grieving. Come here often. There are many caring and sharing people who know what your going through. One thing you might want do is talk to
doctor. Because the anxiety is the worst. It took me months of before I went. My daughter made the appointment and took me. At first I was mad . But I think it saved me. Sometimes we all need a little help.
Prayers and hugs....Gail

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