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Lost my companion of 10 years 2014

candelightandu2
candelightandu2

Hi everyone,


This is the most difficult time of the year. I haven't celebrated the holidays since my companion passed away in July of 2014. I tried last last Christmas. I went to my best friends house, I did good for the first couple of days. But, as people gathered and sat around the table to eat. I had to excuse myself and went into a run and cried non stop. I'm not ready. I miss him soooo much. I can't wait for the holidays to be over. 

Community LeaderShrn
Shrn
Holidays are difficult even for me after 9 years without my husband. It triggers emotions like birthdays, anniversaries, and those special memories we cherish. You will be given much advice to go celebrate the holiday or not go if you don't want to. Some people push themselves and others hibernate. It's your decision and do what is right for you.
There's no right or wrong in grief, just pain and suffering. We are stronger than we know and much more resilient than we feel. You will find your special way through this and we'll be with you. Sharon
shelda
shelda
Holidays are not the same at all for me since my husbands health started to wane in 2010 the cancer...I know they used to be so Important..the lights ,the baking, the presents wrapped just so perfect..and now i could care less..i miss the feelings I used to have though..
candelightandu2
candelightandu2
Sharon, your so right. Why do I feel guilty for not celebrating. It's about giving thanks and the birth of Jesus.
candelightandu2
candelightandu2
Shelda me too