Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I feel so Lost!! My loving husband of almost 29yrs. is no longer here anymore.We lost him June 19th. Our 19yr old daughter is also feeling lost. He had a massive heart attack, with no previous heart problems. "He is the love of my life, my life, my future." I feel so torn apart. I feel like I am in an unending nightmare. We also unexpectedly just lost my Daddy May 10th. Myself, my husband and our daughter did not have time to mourn over loosing Daddy. We lost the men of our life. My daughter and I are so torn apart. I cry myself asleep and awake and during each day. Trying to go on each day. All of this still doesn't feel real. I miss him so painfully much; watching him, his voice, his brown eyes, touching him, his touch, parenting our daughter together, just being with him, "life with him". We had so many future life plans. He had just retired a little over a year ago. He was too young only 58yrs. I am often so upset that he did not get to live longer and enjoy his retirement and growing old with me and more years with our daughter. I feel "Lost Life". I continue to daily pray to God and talk aloud, when noone else is around, to my husband/his spirit.
I share your feeling (3yrs for me). And many there are here, within this support group, will recognize your painful feelings. You are as family to me because of this familiarity we share. So feel invited to share & express to all as friendly company; use this group as a database to help you get past the afflicted feelings. There is much to learn about these things called death and grief.
I do believe that your husband stands near to you. My husband's image visits me each morning, urges me to a feeling of full compassion throughout the day, and comforts me at bedtime. Yes, just as with you, I met and married the love of my life. Bless Jesus to bring that love back to us one day. Until then, it is a miracle to even overcome the long days of heartbreak. Mercy. I've learned that a soul can still reach from beyond the veil to comfort the living. An angel in spirit form yet your husband, my own husband and others' loved ones, still stands nearby to uplift us during stress and struggling times. As a matter of fact, my husband personally told me, a day before his passing, that he was not going anywhere. And he has kept his word. I dream of him often. And much more there is that I would love to tell, though these are things far beyond the comprehension of the human mind. I have kept many manifestations of his spirit in perfect confidentiality. These are sacred moments provided to me by the Lord as a get well offering, for I have pitifully prayed quite fervently to overcome doubt that I will live eternally with my husband; so God answers me. Life is sweeter when God is concerned. I was pitiful though. :-) I can't fault that God should hush me, for the sake of mercy; I needed it! And because of this, I'm not missing much of him, even at the awful face of death; I get through. Praise God.
I hope for you and your daughter to receive delicate comfort. Grief is really one of the greatest perplexities of life, for sure. But once you get pass a few stages, focusing on positive progress, praying, taking time to listen to for the Lord's answers, staying steady in the face of hope, you and your daughter will find a tangible emotional help and great strength. I hope this for you.
Much love! Many warm hugs too.