Widows & Widowers Support Group
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Think of something good that has happened to you lately. If you do not feel you
can label anything as good, think instead of the "exceptions" to your sorrow.
Think of any times this past week when you were not focused on your sorrow. What
were you doing during those times?
"The mind can't occupy itself with two thoughts at a time," says Jim Grassi. "If
you focus on those things that are good and pure and right and fun and new and
exciting and challenging, it's going to be harder for those other thoughts to
seep into your head."
Your healing journey will contain positives, or exceptions to the negative, as
you continue forward. Teach yourself to recognize these forward steps.
"A simple man believes anything, but a prudent man gives thought to his steps"
(Proverbs 14:15).
Lord, I know cannot walk aimlessly through grief; it is too tangled and
torturous. Show me the positive steps I have made so far so I can be encouraged
by them. Amen.
can label anything as good, think instead of the "exceptions" to your sorrow.
Think of any times this past week when you were not focused on your sorrow. What
were you doing during those times?
"The mind can't occupy itself with two thoughts at a time," says Jim Grassi. "If
you focus on those things that are good and pure and right and fun and new and
exciting and challenging, it's going to be harder for those other thoughts to
seep into your head."
Your healing journey will contain positives, or exceptions to the negative, as
you continue forward. Teach yourself to recognize these forward steps.
"A simple man believes anything, but a prudent man gives thought to his steps"
(Proverbs 14:15).
Lord, I know cannot walk aimlessly through grief; it is too tangled and
torturous. Show me the positive steps I have made so far so I can be encouraged
by them. Amen.
Hugs to all - Doye
Nessie from KY
Thanks for the thought provoking post.
I had a great example of positive thinking through my Mother. She was always telling me that she just made up her mind to be happy and went forward. She was a positive thinker from way back. I've always been more of an optimist than a pessimist, and assume it is because of my parents. I thank the good Lord for the parents that I had!! They went through so many hardships during their lives, but, always remained pleasant (the majority of the time), and God-fearing, & God loving all the time.
I am thankful for the years with Joe and for the love we had for each other. Yes, there were some tough times in our marriage, but, we always loved each other ~~ no matter what the problem was. Do I miss him? YES! and always will, but, most of the time I am content now.
I am thankful for my 3 beautiful children and being able to spend time with them on Mother's Day. There is nothing better than being with all 3 of my kids! :-)
There are so many many things that I am thankful for that I certainly could never write them all down. Most of all I am thankful for Jesus and that HE is my Savior.
Being thankful, and looking to the positives, like my baby boy graduating, my daughter's first very brand new car, my stepsons' going off to college to become a fine man just like his dad was, are the things I focus on daily, and you are right. It makes the worse pai9nful feelings push off more than not.
And...I am thankful for all of you here who come back everyday to try again!!!
Love to all and to the posirives in life. They ARE there for us. We just have to look for them
Diane