Hello there. I experienced the same thing July10th, 2010. You never "get over it". I think of Lynn every day. All you can do is start over and move on with your life. Don't rush things, but in my experience I was making attempts at getting back to a lifestyle that I enjoyed and am comfortable with. I am in a committed relationship for 6 years, bought a house, and have a good job. Yes there is life after an event like we went through. Life's a journey not a trip. Good luck. Keep in touch. Will

I am looking for the same thing. My husband of 27 years passed away suddenly on 2/28/18. My 2 children are grown and out of the house so I live by myself and I’m so lonely. What part of the country do you live in? Looking for women who need a friend who can relate.

I think we are all lonely. I'm ready to pack up and move somewhere new, away from the sadness and gloom. However, I made a new friend on here a while back, and we have become close, although we just text. Not a guy friend, but we have helped and encouraged each other across the miles. Actually, she's been more supportive than my own family and church family even. She sent me a gift when I broke my wrist. So I encourage you to reach out, because you never know. Isolation should be avoided at all costs. I hate living alone, but what to do?

I agree that we are probably all lonely. When the person that has shared each day and night with you, has been your world, has been your rock, your laughter, your lover, your friend, and suddenly is forever gone, the loneliness is unbearable sometimes. My husband and I were almost always touching somehow. I would have my feet in his lap or vice versa. We held hands, leaned into each other, played footsy, somehow were in contact. I find myself reaching to his side of the bed just thinking about how good it felt to rub his back at night to put him (and myself) to sleep. I sleep in his t-shirts to feel him around me. The quiet is deafening at times. If I didn't have our fur baby, I think I would go crazy sometimes.

Hi, jjkosmobrown,
I live in the Southwest part of the country.

In response to being lonely, I believe that we have spent a good part of our lives sharing our time with our life partner. Now that they are (in my case suddenly) no longer with us we are at loose ends. It is very hard trying to figure out what to do with myself now. We did everything together. That includes shopping, hiking, walking, going to the theater, and so forth. Now I find that I'd rather order groceries instead of going to the market because that was something that we did together every weekend. I also miss the companionship that we shared. We enjoyed each others company. I feel that it is also hard now because it is the holiday season and he and I both had fun this time of year. He liked how I got excited about the kids coming over for Thanksgiving and/or Christmas.
It is very lonely in my home now because it is just me. All of our children are grown and living their own lives. On the weekends now, I put on football or basket ball now because that was one of his favorite pass times on Saturdays and Sundays. I guess I'm just rambling now, but this is what's going on with me now. I will end this now. Be safe everyone.

I am new to this group and understand the lonliness all too well. I lost my husband 8-6-18 to a brain tumor. We found out on a Monday evening and he had emergency surgery on that Wed and did not wake up. It happened so fast. He was 47 and I am 40. I am so lost and sad all the time. I live alone and though I have amazing friends and family, they dont understand losing a spouse. I am hoping to connect with people on this group. I am so sorry to hear of all your losses as well. I miss him so much.

Nicaponlove, my LH had first skin cancers, then a pituitary adenoma, then bladder cancer, then bone cancer, and finally everything cancer - with blood clots and surgeries and radiation mixed in. It was and is a nightmare. His family turned on me during this time, and I had almost zero support. I live alone also and hate it. Especially since I fell and broke my right wrist. I still have no one, and it's tough trying to do mundane tasks with one hand/arm. I am strictly in survival mode. What a lesson I am learning from all this. In the tough times you find out who your true friends are and who ain't. I look at it as a wake up call to action.

I am also new to this group and glad that your here. It is hard being alone but somehow I hear my husbands.voice in my head encouraging me to keep going. It’s hard as most of you have said. He and I were almost inseparable, and I loved being with him, bouncing ideas off him, watching football together, camping, etc.
I lost my husband 12/17/17 to pulmonary fibrosis (a scarring and hardening of the lung tissue). The doctors had no idea what caused it and thought, (my husband and I) that we had more time, but 10 months later he passed, a shell of the man he’d been at the start of the year.
He stayed at home throughout his illness and I was his caregiver. In September hospice stepped in and what a true blessing they were for both me and my husband.
It’s almost been a year since he passed and I still miss him terribly. But I force myself to get out of the house as often as I.can, because I know it’s what I need to do. because It’s how I’ll manage to move on with my life. In my head I know this is how it’s supposed to work, but I feel rudderless so often with no destination or goal other than to survive..
It’s hard yes, more so than most of us realized, but finding a group like this with so many who are going through the same types of emotions and grief somehow makes me feel not so alone any more.and a little easier to deal with.
Fogdweller