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Truhal
Truhal
My husband died from an aneurysm in his brain. This happened back in March of this year, but it wasn't until yesterday that I really thought about what that means. My husband drove us everwhere. I'd had vision problems that made it impossible for me to drive and then later I just got in the habit of him driving us around. Sort of liked it. Now I think of the possibilities. If we'd been in the same car when it ruptured, we could have both lost our lives, along with whoever else was on the road with us. As it is, it happened in a hospital. At any rate, it made me think: God obviously wants me here. I think it's time I become more thankful.
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Yes, God does want you here. We know He is in control...no one can live this earth without His say so. . So we must stay here until He calls us home....and what a happy day that will be...:) Im glad your still here, I enjoy your posts. God bless. ..:) Debbie
Parmela
Parmela
I FIRMLY believe that God has a plan for each of us. I also believe that he has a reason for everything he does. Sometimes we are fortunate enough to see at least part of that reason...... most of the time we never know.

Loosing my husband at 51 has taught me just how precious life is and that we have to make the most of everyday.
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This reminds me of when my husband and I rode in his new truck when he was heavily medicated right after brain surgery. He drove against the doc's advice and we had our last joyride between 2:00 and 6:00 in the morning. I hadn't seen him so happy in months and for some reason I wasn't nervous at all. Thinking back, it was very dangerous, but I didn't care, because he was so happy and it reminded me of when we were teenagers. I still can't believe that I was the one who suggested it. God must have been looking over my shoulder that night. Yes, there must be a reason for me to be here, and I need to keep looking for the signs.
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I used to in the beginning keep repeating why him he was much stronger, the glue that held the family together. I know there must be a reason I am still here so until I find it I am just trying to be a good person, a good mom, grandma, sister,friend ect.....
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Agreed........about being thankful and about that I am still here for a reason..........a couple of nights before Norm's cardiac arrest he said,"Honey, I watched The Notebook again and I think God should let two people who love each other die together like that.".......I strongly agreed............two days later, he walked out to his truck.........I heard a pounding on the door a few minutes later..........and it was the Miracle Water serviceman who found Norm ...........everything was covered in thick ice..........amd had that man not been there to prevent me...........I know I would have flown out the door without regard to the ice and fallen on the cement next to Norm................don't know what the plan is for the rest of my life.......am trying to live in the moment and learn to be content............miss him so much.........would like to have gone with him,....................
Lori
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All of our days are numbered. Some of us have bigger numbers than others. I always try to look on the positive side, that was one of the things Bill appreciated about me. There are bad hours and sometimes days but I do try to look at the positive side. Then theres always "what would Bill want me to do?" He would want me to go on and live, follow our dreams. So many things to be grateful for. Dar