Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
On November 1st I lost my 51 year old husband of 14 years to a heart attack. We had been loading a moving van to move his mom who also had became a widow unexpectedly in June of 2016 after 53 years of marriage. He had been having chest pains and thought it was stress and indigestion over the previous week. He had chest pain after loading a desk and I told him to go rest and he left the truck and his sister and I heard this strange noise finished what we were doing (less than a minute) she got out of the truck and yelled call 911. My husband was laying in his mom's garage unresponsive. They never did get his heart started. I was on autopilot and numbness until about three days ago. Now the pain is sometimes so overwhelming. I am back at my moms and sometimes it feels as if our life together never happened which makes me hurt so much more. We had a wonderful 17 years together. We were never apart unless we were working. We always lived life to the fullest and did what we wanted when we wanted. Now I have to face life without my best friend. Have not found any local grief groups in my town and came across this site. It has helped reading that people are having the same feelings I am. I have great support from my mom who was widowed at 21 when she was pregnant with me and also from my mother in-law but I do not always want to burden them. I should not be a widow at 41 :(
I am sorry you need to be here, too. It's terrible when it hits you unexpectedly out of the blue. It was the same for me. I hope being here helps you. Welcome.
Love and Hugs,
Martha, Community Leader
I loss my love, my best friend, my husband 10 months ago. He was only 47. It was a sudden and unexpected stroke. He passed 2 days before our 23 anniversary. We were together for 26 years. Missing him is an understatement. My heart doesn't beat the same without him. I feel stuck and life no longer feels like life. I am grateful for our children. This holiday season is irritating. no one seems to understand my grief. I long for his touch, hugs, kisses and encouraging words.