Widows & Widowers Support Group
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Trying to cope with the loneliness and wanting my girls home with me for the summer but also want them to do what they need to for themselves.
The youngest, a college sophomore, has had the hardest time dealing with the sudden death of her father and said she wants to be with me but doesn't want to come home and be at the house. I don't blame her, I don't want to be here without him either.
The older one is in grad school in MI and hasn't been home the last few summers with different internships, but is now looking at getting something near home so she can be here with me.
They'll both be home for a few days soon for spring break and will see how that goes.
Guess I'm just trying to talk it out with myself, trying not to be selfish, but I really just want to hold them and not let them go.
The youngest, a college sophomore, has had the hardest time dealing with the sudden death of her father and said she wants to be with me but doesn't want to come home and be at the house. I don't blame her, I don't want to be here without him either.
The older one is in grad school in MI and hasn't been home the last few summers with different internships, but is now looking at getting something near home so she can be here with me.
They'll both be home for a few days soon for spring break and will see how that goes.
Guess I'm just trying to talk it out with myself, trying not to be selfish, but I really just want to hold them and not let them go.
I know the feeling! Wanting to hug love ones and never letting go! My kids, full grown, are 2.5 hrs away. They love me, but have lives of their own. Even when I tell them how hard it is, they have their own stressors, and I become another stressor/burden to them.
When I tell them how bad it is for me, they offer money. The money helps, but the emotional part of being with someone who really cares for me, they just don't get it. In their mind, I am the parent. I am the person they come to for help. Not the other way around.
I don't think you are being selfish at all. Things will fall into place and get better. Spring break is right around the corner.
Hugs.