You have every right to be left alone. You have the right to grieve in your own way and if that means to be alone [for however long that is], then everyone else needs to back off and leave you alone!

Call the folks who you know will be the most troubled by your introspective behavior and request that they not call you or come by for a while. Let them know that when you're ready to communicate YOU will call them.

I wish you grace and peace in your journey to find both.

Roz

People can be so mean sometimes. Your father-in-law wanted the wedding ring your gave to your husband?


Since you probably don't want an ongoing relationship with them, I think it would be appropriate to be completed clear to them. Tell them you don't want them asking for anything else. If there is something that they want that is appropriate (not your remembrances), they can write it down and send it to you. When you are able, which may not be for quite a while, you will get them those things that you can. Until then, tell them to please stay away.

I gave them a wedding ring. Ts ring was just a 3$ off amazon that's what he wanted and we have had to replace it a few time, well this last time last October, he lost his again so we were going out of town and I reordered it before so he would have a ring. well he found it so there was a spare, so I gave the mortuary the reordered ring the other was in evidence with the FBI, I had them give it to his father I figured what does it hurt he wanted a part of his son so here it is, If it gave him comfort good but lets remember these people had not spoken to their son in 5 yrs. they are all very vengeful , feel that they are never wrong and impossible to deal with . I know this sounds paranoid, they are all planning something, Insurance keeps coming up and I know that his sister and his ex where in cahoots before all this happen its sound crazy I know . His ex who he has a son with who call him ( his son ) one night at 12pm 5 years ago to tell him he hates him always has hes never loved him and never wants to hear from him again then hung up the phone well the ex texted me less then 24 hrs, after hounding me about the insurance I told them its all through his work so they wanted to know where he worked well they called his work just like the parents did, they all have been nothing but a nightmare his doesn't even begin to touch on the evilness of this family an this is a very, very small town I'm rambling sorry I'm very distraught today and I don't go to the psychologist till tomorrow she very spiritual and that help me get through the week but weekends are horrible for me, no hope of hearing anything from fbi at least during the week I might and I call, hey tell me nothing but I let them know I am here waiting

If your husband put you as the beneficiary on his insurance, then you are the one he wanted to get it. If it is setup with you as the beneficiary, just tell them it is yours and that is what he wanted. If he wanted to share it, he could have set it up that way with percentages going to different people.

It sounds like you just need to get away from these people. If you can't physically move away, maybe make them communicate in writing with anything they want - just don't talk to them.

I am looking into moving back to where I am from we were considering it before all this happen and its 5 days short of 3 month, Im waiting on the FBI, ha I cant leave till this has at least started then I can just fly out but Im not leaving here till they (FBI) do something . You are right I sent a text asking them to give me time . I needed to hear what other thought, people who don't know me so theres really no bias I tell exactly what is happening and wait to hear if they feel I should see it differently I am feeling so much guilt lately for now Im in hiding, I was put on disability because of all this (PTSD) so as long as I stay in my room im ok I haven't even been in the rest of the house in a while but I make sure to go somewhere each day not alone but I do go somewhere

Hang in there. It is so hard dealing with your loss. It is too bad your in-laws are making is so much worse. Everyone on this site is in support of you. Good luck.

Thank you, Have a great and safe night

I'm sorry they are harrassing you - that's not right. It might be a good idea to talk with whoever is the benefits manager at your husband's work to make sure that they know they you do NOT give authorization for his family to have access to any of your husband's information, and that is what your husband wanted.

You may also want to check with the benefits manager to see if there is any other help available through his work coverage - that might include legal advice, possibly free counseling, too.

If you think his family are fraudsters up to no good and want his info to commit something criminal, let his employer know that and the FBI know that, too,

I am sorry you're going through this. Hang in there.

Love and Hugs,
Martha