Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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IrishMick 07/14/2018

It's been 7 months since I lost my love ...23 years married the month she left. Met in high school so really more like 32 years. Lost our dog last year too. Now its me. I'm alone ... Celebrating beautiful moments alone. Fearing the future alone. It is the sharing I miss the most. Physically I'm a wreck ... Her illness lasted 14 months ... And has left me a shaking shell shell of what I was once. I feel guilty even writing about this because what she suffered was far worse. Started designing her tombstone this week because that is something I 'can do' (I'm an artist) ... Praying for peace ... And normalcy that I fear will never come.

Greenteam 07/14/2018

Mick I know it's rough. Those emotions just keep coming back over and over. As bad as she suffered you suffered right along side her. Don't fear the future. Yes it is like looking into the abyss. I just turned 8 years from my Lynn. I think of her everyday and I look up at the sky and say "I love you" everyday. In my drive to live my life since I didn't have the guts to kill myself I have met another person, obtained livable employment, and bought a house. This is why I urge you not to fear the future. It wasn't easy and in my case it isn't as sweet as my life with Lynn. Still I feel like I am part of the world and I have purpose. Don't let those emotions hold you back. You'll never forget. Just be yourself, turn the page, and start over again. I did.

Rbkmimom 07/15/2018

I feel your pain, my husband died july 2 and was buried last wednesday. He suffered for 15 months with brain cancer and I was his caregiver. Now I have all this time and no more dr appointments, no pills to give , helping with everything. Hopefully you have a loving family and good friends who will help you through this. A support group will also help. I will try all of these to help me. So far my family have really helped.

Msbklyn 07/15/2018

It took me a long time to find peace and normalcy. This has been a rollercoaster for almost 3 years but I can see the progress I've made. Time really makes all the difference. I've come a long way recently and have started to really find that sense of peace and some normalcy. I'm better able to cope with my life and not having the man I loved for 33 years at my side. I'm even proud of myself for doing things that he would normally do. This has only really happened within the past few months. It's been a step forward at time and then a step back. I'd have a few good days, maybe even a week and then a very bad day or week. I don't have those highs and lows, I find an emotional evenness now. Occasionally a bad moment or day but I know it will get better again very soon. Know that you will survive but need to go through all of the pain before you can be healed. God Bless Marybeth

IrishMick 07/16/2018

Yeah .. I'm having a really hard time going to restaurant s we used to frequent, movies I know she would have loved, etc etc.

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