Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I miss everyone and I am REALLY bummed I couldn't make it to Vegas.. I went through a bad grief burst in May and needed a break from here , but I miss everyone and am okay again... EXCEPT
I've been in San Diego since May 22 and was finally having a "Happy" summer so to speak, taking golf lessons, biking, hiking, going to the gym , I was so sick and tired of grief bursts ! Got a call from my Phoenix neighbor on Monday that my alarm was going off, she came in to shut it off and found my house flooded. I had a small 3rd floor refrigerator with a bad water supply line burst. I came home Tuesday morning to a mess that is going to take 6 to 8 weeks to reconstruct my home. It took 4 12 hour days just to demolish all of the wet mess . The bright side it didn't affect my bedroom & kitchen so I am able to live here. Sad news I have to stay in the Phoenix heat all summer ! It's just a house and it's just stuff so I really didn't get to bent out of shape, I told everyone NOTHING and I mean NOTHING in my life will ever devastate me again as much as losing my husband did. As far as I'm concerned the entire house could have flooded away with everything in it and I could of cared less. Worst part of it was going through the wet boxes from the office and finding my husbands medical records, cards and letters, articles his sister had published about watching someone die from Cancer, his obituary ... I lost it yesterday and again today. But I'm okay , just wasn't ready to open that box.
What I have realized as I also went through my Grief information that I have kept , NO " Finish Line" For Grief
Grievers form an inner sense of continued bonds with deceased loved ones. They hold the deceased in loving memory for long periods, often forever. The inner representation allows a send of connection and interaction with the physical absent, but emotionally present loved one.
Therefore, "good grief" seems to result in both a letting go and remaining involved.
taken from www.hospiceinspiris. com
wishing everyone a peace in their hearts in their time ...
Grievers form an inner sense of con
I've been in San Diego since May 22 and was finally having a "Happy" summer so to speak, taking golf lessons, biking, hiking, going to the gym , I was so sick and tired of grief bursts ! Got a call from my Phoenix neighbor on Monday that my alarm was going off, she came in to shut it off and found my house flooded. I had a small 3rd floor refrigerator with a bad water supply line burst. I came home Tuesday morning to a mess that is going to take 6 to 8 weeks to reconstruct my home. It took 4 12 hour days just to demolish all of the wet mess . The bright side it didn't affect my bedroom & kitchen so I am able to live here. Sad news I have to stay in the Phoenix heat all summer ! It's just a house and it's just stuff so I really didn't get to bent out of shape, I told everyone NOTHING and I mean NOTHING in my life will ever devastate me again as much as losing my husband did. As far as I'm concerned the entire house could have flooded away with everything in it and I could of cared less. Worst part of it was going through the wet boxes from the office and finding my husbands medical records, cards and letters, articles his sister had published about watching someone die from Cancer, his obituary ... I lost it yesterday and again today. But I'm okay , just wasn't ready to open that box.
What I have realized as I also went through my Grief information that I have kept , NO " Finish Line" For Grief
Grievers form an inner sense of continued bonds with deceased loved ones. They hold the deceased in loving memory for long periods, often forever. The inner representation allows a send of connection and interaction with the physical absent, but emotionally present loved one.
Therefore, "good grief" seems to result in both a letting go and remaining involved.
taken from www.hospiceinspiris. com
wishing everyone a peace in their hearts in their time ...
Grievers form an inner sense of con
I am sorry for the flooding, but glad you are able to stay there-----.
These times when our sadness and grief overcome us are difficult, tiring, and a part of our lives. I had a pretty crummy day yesterday---not much energy today, but better.
Love and Hugs,
Sallie
than Phoenix heat...
Hang in there Tracy.....
YOU could send some warmer temps my way though???? (LOL)
Thank you for the reminder that there is "NO Finish Line!. I needed that.
Hugs,
Vicki
And yes, it all triggers more grief. I think I feel angry, frustrated and sorry for myself that I now am solely responsible for all these things.
My second son just graduated from high school this past week and it most definitely triggered a grief burst. The dance was at the hotel beside my husband's office and we used to lunch there regularly. Also all the people I had not seen since his passing had to approach me and pass on condolences. It was exhausting. The next day I actually took a 1/2 dose of sedative and stayed in bed for most of the day.
Grief sucks.
Wishing you peace T. You are not alone.
j.
((((HUGS))))
Karl