Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
It's been six months without my love. I knew my birthday was coming so I thought I would ease my pain by being with family. So now the day is here I am 800 miles away from home and I think it is harder here then it would of been if I were home and alone. Every time someone wishes me a happy birthday I break down. It is only 8:45 am and I have all day to get through. What was I thinking? I love my family but right now I just don't want to be here.
I haven't even thought about my birthday, which after reading your posting made me realize this is another first I have to face.
I understand how you feel about being so far away from home. As much as we face the silence of our homes we shared with our spouses, it remains our home and we feel closer to them. My wife loved our home, it is where she wanted to be towards her end of life. So home is very special, but not the same and never will be. You will be home again, keep that in mind and try to remember the good times you shared with your husband. That is what I try to do at these times that we shared together, that were special for both my wife and I.
My wife and never really celebrated birthdays that much, so I don't anticipate a big problem there. However, we always had difficulty on our daughters birthday ( she died when she was 17 ) and having family around seemed to help. We actually use that day as fund raiser for charities in our daughters name.
Just get through the day the best you can. If you are a hugger try to get some from family.
*** sends virtual hug ***
Bob
Nessie from KY