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its been 6 months

WendyinAK
WendyinAK

6 months ago today, i lost my Wes.  Suddenly and totally unexpected.  We were moving from Alaska to Oklahoma for new jobs for both of us.  I am a nurse and he was the Fire Marshal in the town we lived in in Alaska.  He flew ahead to start his job first while I finished packing our house.  We talked on the phone every chance we got while he was down there.  We were both so excited to start a new life in Oklahoma.


8 days after he left, he was gone.  It still seems so completely unbelievable to me.  i saw this forum and thought maybe talking to others about the complete emptiness i feel would help.

Veronica77
Veronica77
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my partner Mike 02/11/14 with a sudden heart attack. Keep putting one foot ahead of the other and with time the heaviness will lift. Take care of yourself and drink lots of water and try to have one good meal a day. Your husband would want you to have the best life possible. He is still with you in spirit and is watching over you. Try to find a bereavement group if you can. This group has been a great help to me. Read some of the older posts and get to know some of the people. ((Gentle Hugs))
Marie44
Marie44
Wendy, that saddens me the way you lost your husband while he was away from you. That must be doubly hard to deal with. My husband passed 2 years and 8 months ago suddenly after shoveling snow. I've gotten used to it but I wouldn't say I've gotten over it. Each month things will get a little bit easier. Wishing you all the best.
JJWHO2018
JJWHO2018
I am so sorry. I endured a similar experience when my husband died. Share, journal and educate yourself on what to expect with grief...those things bring relief. Dr. Alan Wolfelt has some excellent and practical materials..you can get them in at most libraries. Peace be with you,
denverkim
denverkim
Hi Wendy,

I'm so sorry you're here. Sorry we're all here. And we all understand this pain, loss, confusion, sadness, anger, etc., etc. My husband passed nearly 11 months ago after collapsing with intense abdominal pain, getting diagnosed with "poorly differentiated carcinoma of unknown primary" and dying 20 days later...we didn't even get to start any treatment. I know it's a blessing that his pain wasn't prolonged, but I'm sure in some ways I am still in shock.

Some expressions I've heard that have helped me are: "Your track record for getting through the worst days is already 100%", "He kept his vow to love you the rest of his life", "you don't get over it - you get used to it." Please take care of yourself. We are here for you!