That is just wrong! 26? Not fair, not fair at all. 8 weeks is very very early into grieving. You are so right that looking at pictures any of those triggers brings on the gut wrenching sobs. It takes a long time before you look up one day and realize you are tracing his lips, in a photo, and instead of tears there is a smile. A very long time. I'm so sorry for your suffering. Lori

So sorry ray104. There are no shortcuts with grief. Let the tears flow. Lori's right. It takes time to get there but you'll get to the place she describes where you can find a smile again.
Peace and ((hugs))
John

Your pain is so new and so raw. It takes time, so much time. You have to grieve. If you try to mask the pain it will hit you later on down the road, there's no getting around the pain ... you have to go through it.
Cry whenever you feel like crying. But remember to take care of yourself ... eat healthy, sleep, drink lots of water. Find a therapist or a grief support group ... someone to lean on, someone who supports you.
We're here for you, and we understand what you're feeling. It's a rough journey.

Hugs,
Janie

Ray 104 - I am so very sorry for your loss. You are so young to have to face this type of grief. I love what laney77 said - that it takes a long time before you are tracing his lips in a photo and instead of tears there is a smile. Thanks, Laney, I needed that myself!

It's close to 4 and a half months since I lost my husband. I still cry, I am terribly sad, and although the pain is certainly still there, the sharp pain does not hit as often. Time will not cure the pain of your loss, but time will help soften the pain. Take care. As Janie said, we are all here for you.
Karen

I am so sorry ray 104. What you are doing is normal. I did that a lot in the early days; pushed my grief into the background to function. And you are the first, rawest stage of grief. You have to work through the grief at your own pace and in your own time. Take care of yourself and try to get lots of support. It is OK to be grief stricken and to cry. It is also Ok to avoid sometimes, we all do it. It really is just one step, one day at a time. It does get better, but it takes a long time. Please know that you are not alone and let us support you as best we can. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

Focusing on anything after such a loss is difficult for us. The mind is trying to process the fact of what has happened and the heart is screaming no. Take deep breathes and accomplishment what you can, but take time to grieve your loss. Grief can not be ignored, but must be worked through with tears and anger of the unfairness of what happened.

I'm very sorry for your loss and hope you find comfort here. Sharon

Everywhere I go I am reminded of him. I pass all the places we shopped together, went to movies and restaurants together. I really lose it when I look at our lake where we had the best times of our lives each summer on our boat. It was our true relaxing time. We could leave the cares of the world behind us on that boat, now come spring I will have to sell it as I cannot afford to keep it and wouldn't be able to use it anyway as it's too big and needs to be put in and taken out and then there is the docks to put in and take out and the poles and on and on. I tried to look at pictures, but can't keep it together when I do that so I have 1 photo on the dresser that I kiss goodnight each night and each morning and for now that is it. Losing your love at 26 is almost impossible to comprehend for me. I am so sorry you are going through this, but know that you can come here and vent or just speak your mind whenever you need to. Everyone here understands.