Maybe you are still in shock. Every one expresses loss differently. You don't have to cry. I know you are sad. You wouldn't have any other reason to join this support group. Its OK not too cry so don't feel like its not

You will.
Shock and numbness protects you now.
Take things a step at the time and be gentle with yourself.
Hugs

It's nearing 4 months for me...I cry occasionally, sometimes silent tears flowing, sometimes a tsunami of weeping. But I let it flow to heal and cleanse. It's usually something "little" and unexpected that sets me off. :-)

I certainly don't cry for hours nor all the time nor every day. I am profoundly sad but not depressed. I think "sadness" is a normal, healthy emotion...and some people weep when they are sad...others don't so much. Each of us is unique.

I don't think your are an exception to the rule. My daughter did not cry and didn't seem to grief. Her husband told me she had one big cry and that was it. I asked her if she missed her dad. She said yes and she accepted the fact that his is gone and just remember him in her heart. One day my 6 year old grandson was cold. I covered him with my husband's favorite hoody. She told her son that grandpa was hugging him through the jacket. My grandson smiled and said he felt grandpa hugging him. Even though she didn't grief she tried to pass on her dad's memory to her son. Some people handled grief better than other and I don't think you need to cry all the time.

3 months here.... I only cry when triggers hit, then only a little, I have accepted it. Maybe you don't have time, with 3 kids. I think its because my husband was so sick, and in ppain, that I know his pain is gone, remember you went through that pain with yours. My son told me, his dad died years ago, just his body hadn't yet.

Thank you. I grieved alot while my husband battled cancer for a year and a half. Each time we got bad news, there went another little piece of my heart. I cried alot during that time. My sister thinks I got through the hardest part of grief work then. Idk, but sometimes I feel guilty for not crying more. The last Sunday that he went to church, he went to the alter to pray and I've wondered if he didn't pray for peace for me because I've had peace since then.

My dear husband suffered a cerebral hemorrhagic stroke in 2009 and I lost him 6 1/2 months ago. Both my husband and I grieved greatly during the 3 1/2 years following his stroke ... I'm not sure I realized it at the time but I do now. He was paralyzed and required a great deal of care in every aspect of every activity of daily living ... it was a very exhausting existence for both of us.

I was completely in shock, numb, paralyzed for the first 3 - 4 months after his death ... I rarely cried ... I couldn't. I felt myself crying inside my heart, indeed screaming, but could not cry out. Just like you, I felt guilty about not crying. The shock has worn off and now I'm faced with reality. I have cried in the last few months and sometimes wailed with grief. But I don't cry all the time ... not even every day. I am resigned to my new reality and am doing a lot of hard grief work so that I am able to live my life in a manner that will honor his life. Oh my God how I love him!

Everyone grieves differently. I am finding that I am normal ... you are normal too. Be kind to yourself.

Hugs and blessings ~~

i stopped crying early on. now when i do - it is a comfort ,
everyone's grief is different.

I can't get the tears to stop...I cry all the time...I miss every little thing about him, not even sure how to cope.

I once wrote a very long time ago
I don't cry much I never have....
but my soul weeps often.............
We all express ourselves differently...

I cried a little tonight....

you are very early in your grief. As #1 said you may still be in shock, but whatever, everyone grieves differently.

There are no "shoulds" in grief. Each path is different. Just as each life is different, and one is not "better" than another. But you should note, that these paths often have twists and turns.

I am sorry for your loss.

Mel, I don't think there is anything wrong with you at all. The tears come when they will. I have hardly cried at all either and its been 3 mnths. since my husband died, and i loved and still love him very much. I have been through multiple losses, and cried a lot a long time ago when i first experienced grief in my life. It has been a year today since my beloved daughter died, and i didn't cry much for her either, even though my heart is broken. I don't know what it is this time as to why i don't cry much anymore?
Maybe through it all i have just come to the realization that my tears are useless, because my tears will never bring my loved ones back to me here, nor will my tears and heartache ever change anything that has and continues to break my heart.

I asked the funeral director why was I not crying. He smiled at me and said, you will. I did, but not as soon as others. You may find yourself crying, or you may not, it's individual.

I just caution you not to hold back the emotions out of fear. Many fear a total loss of control to let a tear fall. You won't break by letting the emotions out. Actually they are cleansing to the heart. But tears are one way we grieve. Not a requirement. You will grieve your loss in your way and in your time. Hugs, Sharon

Is will be 8 weeks tomorrow since I lost my soul mate...the first month I didn't really cry very much at all, not like I expected that I would...now I have days when that's all I want to do...Today is a weepy day...I have caught myself many times...but since I am at work it is not like I can go in the rest room and cry for an hr....I have days like this...perhaps the reality of what I lost, and how my life is never going to be the same is just setting in...but I am really not sure about that either....but what I have learned that everyone is different, there is no rite or wrong way to grieve...regardless what co-workers or society thinks...