My husbands urn sits on my fireplace mantle, where he said he wanted to be. I bought a very nice urn, I would never even think of taking him out of it. he is staying right where he is, and I will be next to him one day in my similar urn.

Don't worry about things that haven't even happen. No, he's not a bit lonely where ever you place him. He is in a spirit world not ours.
Personally, I would not take him any place away from where he is right now....... in fear of dropping the urn. He will be at the baby shower even if the urn is not there.

My husband and I did not believe in funeral in the traditional sense, so when he died, I did not have a viewing or anything, we a long time ago decided just cremation, but what to do with the ashes? As fate would have it my son was doing volunteer work at the VA cemetary, and since my husband was a Veteran, my son was familiar with the Honor Ceremony they do for the Vets and he suggested we do that and then bury dad ashes in the container provided by the funeral home. So that is what we did, all except a small amount. We have enough for my daughter to make a small diamond out of some of my husband ashes, the same with some of my ashes and my son wants to put some in a vial mixed with some of my ashes when the times comes to wear around his neck.

Some might think it morbid, but I rather think it nice in a way, I tease and tell the kids I am but a diamond in the rough and with what my son wants to do, well I will always be with Dave, at least a part of me.

I know this is not for everyone, but I do know thru some funeral homes you can have your loved ones ashes turned into diamonds, expensive, but it can be done.

Myself and all four of our children have small urns with his ashes in them--mine sits in my living room by his picture--it's beautiful and I like having it there. The remainder of his ashes were spread here over our property as he wished. I don't think there is a right or wrong way to do it. If you are most comfortable having his ashes there with you then keep them there--if you would be more comfortable having them buried or put somewhere else then do that. You should do whatever feels right to you--you are the only one who knows what will work for you. Hugs
Wanda

My husband's urn is also on the fireplace mantle. I am building a small memory garden and will put a small amount of his ashes there. The rest will stay on the mantle until I can join him. That will be the time when a close friend will release them at our favorite place.

My husband LOVED reading books. His urn actually looks like a book. I had the front and spine engraved with a message that commemorates his character. Currently, it sits on my dresser in the master bedroom. I'm still very close to my in-laws and when they visit, they often slip away to my room and spend time there.

When the time is right, I'll move the urn to the library where it will sit among his beloved book collection..... but I'm not quite ready to make that move yet.

Silverfox,
Wonderful advice with the underlying theme to do whatever feels right for you. There is no wrong way to honor your departed loved one.
And you, MileHi, have done something really unique and meaningful with your dear "bookworm's" ashes.
Juanita

I love the book idea. Well done!
For us, we buried most of the ashes and have a unique monument so that all who want to remember her have somewhere to go. We also have four separate remains - one for each of my kids and myself. Over the next few years, we plan to visit the places she loved most and will each pick a place that was our favourite place to be with her - we will then spread her ashes in each of those memorable locations.

My husband's urn is in his parents locked bedroom closet. I have no access. I had one day. I know his spirit is less than 3 feet of me almost all the time. I can feel it.

I to have been thinking the same thing about my husbands ashes, we picked out a beautiful urn that his ashes are in & my daughter & I originally had planned on having him at home for a bit while we decided where we wanted to place his ashes, we currently have him on a shelf surrounded by pictures of him & family & some little knickknacks that represent some of his hobbies & favorite things he loved in life & the more I look at his urn placed on that shelf surrounded by all those things he loved so much the more I think that's where he would want to stay & as much as I originally thought I wouldn't be able to handle looking at his urn everyday I was wrong , it actually brings me a lot of comfort having him here in the house with us, so whatever feels right for you is the right thing to do.............................................Kim

Thank you everyone. We had discussions before my husband died. He originally wanted to be buried. He asked me "You didn't want to be next to me?" I told him I wanted to be cremated. Later in time he said it was OK to cremate him. He was cremated because we had not purchase the grave site as we were to grow old together and it was too earlier for him to pass. This lady told me he liked the niche that I purchased for us and that he would want to rest there. The conflict comes in as my oldest daughter said she will not go to the cemetery. Some family members welcome the idea that I bring him around so they don't need to go to the cemetery. I also like to keep him close to me. He is still my source of comfort.

Well...Joe's on top of the entertainment center, where I can keep an eye on him. Minus a leg and arm, that went with the stepkids back to California. It's too early for you to think this way, Silverfox, and I mean that in the kindest way possible - but I know that these are the earthly remains of Joe's physical body only. His soul and spirit took flight a long time ago. That being said - I want his ashes here with me. And that was his wish.

My husband being the wildlife biologist and into outdoors already had a spot where he worked in the woods picked out....due to his two sons being so ugly I only spread 1/2 the ashes as it was so intense and ugly than spread his ashes where we loved to ride our horses near our home, and a few with his old dog on our place....It felt good so I no longer go to the place where he wished ITS theirs not ours and not peaceful....

I placed my wife's cremains in the family cemetary and purchased the niche next to hers for myself. I have two candles with her name on it, one at home and the other in her niche and light it on special days.

I can only repeat the proper place for ashes is where you feel they should be. My husband always said he wanted to be placed on our daughters mantle so thats where he is. He is secretly contained in a clock that was made for that purpose.

I had a teardrop pendent with some ashes made for me and divided the remainder for our son and his brother to spread. On his birthday a year after his death we all took our part of his ashes to a place he loved and let the wind take flight with his soul.

I am content with what we planned, so that was right for us. Everyone needs their own way of saying goodbye to the physical remains. Thankfully the spiritual takes care of itself. Sharon

I have planted a tree with a small plaque with the name on it. This is for the "Green Effort". I have no special attachment to ashes. Everyone should do exactly what feels right for them.