I was with my hubby for almost 16 years and they are my family....but they as well worry if i will continue to be part of their family...His Grandparents and Uncles asked me at the memorial if I was going to continue to stay in contact....and I told them that they cant get rid of me that easily....I grew to love these people over the years...I know there are some real horror stories out there but I am staying a part of them. I feel terrible that you feel this way and I know that I am of no help and I am glad that his family hasnt made me feel any less than a member...Jen

All I have left of my in-laws are my husband's brother and his family. I haven't heard one peep out of them since the funeral 6-1/2 months ago. We are on opposite sides of the country, but I had hoped he would have at least thought about his nephews if not me. It is troubling. I have meant to write or call, but don't know if it will be worth it. My husband and I were together for 30 years; I feel like I've lost more than my spouse, I've lost a brother too.... Hugs.

I have been and always will be close to my husbands mother, sister, and brother. I am closer to them and my nieces and nephews then to my own brothers and fams. For instance, I just had a birthday and not one of my 3 brothers or their families called or wrote me. But I got cards and calls from all of my in laws. I thank God every day for having them in my life. I know I'm lucky.

Bruce has 2 sisters, they call me and I call them. I had a falling out with the older sister and we did not talk for a few weeks. She called yesterday cring it was the 5th month of his passing. I told her I loved her but quite talking about his death and we will be fine. She agreed and all is ok. I am lucky to have people that call me however they all live far away and I sit here alone day after day..

I know exacly what you mean when you say you feel like an alian. My father in law has gone out of his way to make me feel like i did not belong(so we diden't visit often).My husband and i were married for 14 1/2 years and he has been gone now almost 17 weeks. He has recently done things that makes me want to finally tell him off. I don't because i keep reminding myself that he just lost his son who was only 35 , and because I don't want my daughters to loose anyone else in their life. So I shut my mouth and visualize strangling him(I just visualize I wont do it). On the bright side my mother in law has been a blessing. So to answer your question you have to do what is best for you and your son.
I don't know if this helps but your not the only one having problems with in laws.

I really think it has alot to do with the relationship you had with them to begin with. All I have left of my husbands family is his sister and her family. She repeatedly tells us that she's here for us, and we hear from her often. It's too bad that some families just drift after a death. This is when you need them most. If I remarry, which someday I plan to do, I did discuss with my sis-in-law if she would feel awkward keeping in touch like always. She replied of course not, she doesn't expect my life to stop because her brother's did! I'm glad she's got that attitude, I've been seeing a widower for close to a year, don't know if it'll ever develop, but I can't say it won't, so that's why I wanted to talk to her about that. She was very accepting of my widower friend.

Thank you all so much. Don't get me wrong I love my inlaws. But sometimes I just can't deal with them. And they have to see what is going on inside of me. Tonight I skipped out on a family function, because I just couldn't make myself go. And my son allowed me to not go. No one to push me. They will always be my family. And I want my son to know them this I know. Thanks again, everyone. I will call in the morning and explain.

All that is left of my husbands family is his brother and sister and their kids, thankfully we get along very well. His sister calls me every weekend and my brother in laws oldest son also calls me really often since everything happened. Im really glad they keep in touch and make me still feel important. My sister in law is always encouraging me to do good things for myself, I just wish she lived closer.

Mark's mother, sister and brother keep in touch we didn't know each other very well. they live in Canada and we lived in Hobbs but we meet before and spoken on the phone. They want to keep in touch and I am glad because they knew Mark and I were happy. They consider me a big part of there family. But Mark's father on the other hand if he does'nt call me again there is no hard feeling. He is to controling and I only talked him because of Mark's. So know we have nothing to say to each other.

My mother & father-in stay in touch sporatically and I have tried to call once in awhile. They sent a birthday card which was nice & a plant stand. They live a little over an hour away so I really don't see them often. I think they have a hard time coming to the house. Ted's oldest brother has told my daughter it's just too difficult so I really don't hear from them. There is a family reunion soon but I will not be able to attend due to a wedding, but I'm not sure if I could have gone. I would like to think I would but it would have been difficult. It's one day at a time and one event at a time.

I am very close to my husbands twin brother. My mother-in-law passed away 3 weeks ago but, her and I were not talking when she passed. I think I reminded her of her son to much.It hurt my feeling alot but, it was her choice. Hang in there

After the way they treated me last night, I don't care if I ever see any of them again. They came in and swooped in on my house like a bunch of vultures. They were only supposed to be there to retrieve the girl's stuff, but started taking things from my garage - my father-in-law had my snowblower loaded onto the UHaul! "It was a gift from me to Carlos" he said. He did unload it, but still. I don't have any children with Carlos, and his daughters never had any use for me - I supported them for 9 years while their deadbeat mothers got all the glory. Carlos died with one of them owing over $18k in back child support. It looks like I'm in the minority here, but they are definitely no longer my family!