Glad you're still here. My husband was taken from me in August 2020. I find writing has been very helpful, understanding that some people don't understand the great pain of losing a spouse. Do your best to take care (eat well, get fresh air, try to get good sleep, and find gratitude in each day).

Good advice MelT. Thanks. Today I got my front lawn mowed. I know it doesn't sound like much, but for me it is a very big deal. I had become a master of "putting off that which I could have done today to tomorrow". Recently, I realized that my primary motivation over my 30 years of marriage was living and doing for her. Perhaps it is time I learned to take care of myself. It feels good to write again :-)

Widow of 16 yrs, grief is always present at a low hum but like you, mowing the lawn is a great accomplishment, moving forward each day the best we can. Life goes by too quickly so I try to be grateful for each day, find goodness every day, be kind. God loves us and will take care of those of us left behind. God bless you Sir, keep on trucking with the rest of us.

My dementia seems to be getting worse. Using my cellphone has become increasingly difficult for me. For example, I couldn't get signed into my cell phone because of one-time code the bank kept sending me which I couldn't enter in time to sign into my account. Fortunately, a nice teller at my bank figured it out, registered the phone and stopped that extra one-time code. I am so glad that problem is now solved. But I'm telling you, my mind was scrambled big time.

Stupid stuff like that sets my brain spinning with my thoughts just turning to mush. I was told by the neurologist shortly after my open-heart surgery that, without running some tests, she was pretty sure I had post-heart lung machine dementia. And it wasn't going to get any better. I guess a 5 bypass open heart surgery is complex and takes time. And I am grateful that I'm still here.

I try not to worked up over stupid life sh*t because thoughts spinning and scrambling in my head is not a fun place for me to be. Thank God I can still write :-)

Scottie, I haven't been on this site for a very long time; but I remember your postings so well. Some were downright comical and provided many a laugh for those of us who needed it! I am now at 15 years, seems hard to believe that I have survived this grief journey which still haunts me. I still have a wonderful therapist who has been a great support through the many losses that I have had to experience. Sorry that you are having problems with dementia. I am a member of another FB group so I haven't visited this site often in the past few years. At one time, it was my lifeline. I hope that you continue to post as I will certainly take a look more often. I enjoy them so much. Roxanne

I am so sorry to hear about that Scott. My husband has been gone for almost 10 years now toom and I remember you on here helping others including me. Your words truly helped me.You have a way with words and I will coe on and check them out. Take care .Know you are cared for.

@MelT2020, lovesloons, roxanne809, shelda,

What a wonderful surprise to read such lovely words from each of you! I have such fond memories of how most everyone on this site helped me in the early years of my grief. I loved my Juanita so very much and was blessed to have had the perfect woman for me as my wife for over 30 years. I still love her deeply in my heart.

I don't think that love changes for any of us that lost a true love. We will never lose that love. They will be in our hearts forever on this side of eternity. The beauty of this site is the new friendships we are able to forge in our time of deepest despair. And do what we can to help each other along this road called life.

We can let grief destroy us or we can continue with a life that can never be the same. Our choice. We can chose to wither and die. Or we can chose to keep on keeping on believing that we all are still here for a purpose, whether or not we understand what that purpose might be. Perhaps it is as simple as helping each other through through this journey we call life.

Scott

I remember you Scott xox you helped me through some very tough times and I will be forever grateful.