I think you should do whatever you need to to help you through the pain my husband has been gone two weeks tomorrow and each day it's harder and harder but I'm sending you a virtual hug.

Genentte thank you for the comment and I am sorry for your loss. I’m sending you a hug right back.

Hugs to you solidlylost. I am 59 and lost my husband on 4-23. I feel we are way too young to be widows. We did not have children either. I do feel it makes it harder. I agree with Genette. Do whatever you need to get peace.

Genette, my heart goes out to you. It does get harder and harder.

I wrapped myself up in Cliff's old bathrobe to sleep. I could imagine himn holding me, and it was one of the few things I had that still had his scent on it.

I had friends who would hug me, and my big pet cat enjoyed getting extra cuddles. Those things helped, but I still missed Cliff's big strong arms.

Some people have found it helpful to get a massage. It's not quite the same thing - obviously - but it helps take the edge off some of the stress. You might try that - it's safer than paying for physical contact in some other setting.

I am sorry for your loss. Welcome.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

I know how your feeling I am 54 my wife was 58 when she passed just over 3 weeks ago I feel empty without her but yes at nights and mornings I just feel so lonely it's such a painful experience but it's good to spk to others going through same thing as you think your the only one x

I woukd hold you with no expectations i lost my wife of 16 years and miss holding her i have no one to hold.

I am sorry for all of us to have lost our partners in our lives...it’s so sad that we feel so alone now...pretty much everyone in my circle have their spouses still and they just don’t understand this pain and loneliness...and they won’t unless they live through it. It seems as though society doesn’t want to see us...it’s too difficult and sad to think about so we get to live these lonely lives. Maybe someday I’ll find the energy...I don’t yet and I am coming up on two years.

I myself hug his bathrobe everyday and I take the lid off of his cologne from time to time, just to remember what he smelled like. I miss the hugs too! It can be very lonely at times. I believe everyone here feels the same way!

It's only been 16 days but he was actually diagnosed 18 months ago and 6 months previous to that I had moved in with my mother because our marriage was bad. I loved him and held it together all that time. Now I just want somebody to hold me. I dont need to be told it's going to be ok. I just need a caring warm arm wrapped around me with out having to regret it. After caring for our kids while walking through his cancer on top of the fact I was ready to leave because of his drinking. Which now i can see that he may have been drinking to avoid the fact something was seriously wrong. I just need something comforting for me without having to feel dirty. I was married almost 9 years and I bet it's been since 2014 since he took time to comfort me or show me I am a women. I am angry for staying in a marriage that long hoping to fix it to only end up like this. But i am so thankful knowing that the broken man my husband was, loved me and only me with everything he had until the day he passed.

I agree that you have to do what you have to do. This process is so painful. I am sending you hugs.

I am so sorry we all feel so alone and miss our lost loves so heartbreakingly much. I also desire to be held/hugged/touched/feel/see/hear/his voice/scent/just sharing life with him. I hug his clothes, pillow, sit in his recliner, etc… because I greatly desire to hold him and be held by him. I also send you hugs and a wish to somehow find future happiness.

Don’t wanna be a widow... yes me too.. I wish there was some way we could easily find some true comfort in the touch world...I won’t tell anyone i know that I am paying to be held... I will wait a long time before I do it again too because Honestly, I resent our society “Normal” and the touch deal where comfort can be conceived as something “else “

Masturbation is our everything!