I'm not sure at what level nutty widow brain you are at here but the newspaper and internet are good resources for apartment/house hunting. Seriously, try to stay away from a long term lease and try to find something on more of a month to month basis. Just because a long term lease may be standard practice that point may be negotiable if they want to rent the unit. This may limit your choices but at least it will buy you some time, or you might get lucky and find something you love. If you get out of the situation you are in you may be able to think things thru more clearly.

Anyway that's my thoughts and I pray you find some peace and a new place.

Hugs,
Ron

When I started looking I was looking at 3 bedroom apartments which was what I was my house was but I thought I needed a craft room and a guest room. Then I thought why do I need a guest room my grand kids come occasionally and they can bring a sleeping bag. And why a craft room I can paint at a card table:) I rented a lovely spacious 1 bedroom loft like apartment my rent is affordable the utility bills less and there is a swimming pool, exercise room and walking trails. It came with a new washer and dryer. I am loving it here and I never have to have my son be able to move in and live off me again. Me and my dogs are so happy in our little place. Good luck with your search and may you find a place you and the puppy will be happy:)

OK sweetie, let's get a grip. You tried to make it work with your father knowing that it wouldn't. First, ward off the arguements with I know and yes your rights..placate him and don't feed his need to argue.
Now first off, you need to know what area you want to live in, you have a dog so you need a place that will accomodate animals. How much room do you need? How permanent do you want this place to be. If it is transitional then a month to month would be best. Oh yea! how much do you want to pay for rent?
You know all of these things, you are just so rattled right now because of your living conditions that you can't think straight. Do you happen to have any friends that are looking for a tempory room mate? That would give you a chance to settle down a bit and regroup and not have to make a choice when stressed.
I am so sorry for the situtation you are in, even when you make your move to where ever your father is going to make you feel awful. He really needs some medical attention maybe a chill pill or two. Hang in there, be smart and focus on your needs.
Hugs Linda

Sounds like you're current living situation is so upsetting that you can't even find 5 minutes of peace to sit down and catch your breath. Much less, THINK!

I know it would be expensive, but have you thought about checking into one of those extended stay places? Maybe if you had a couple of weeks to a month of quiet you could think things through and have time to look for a more permanent living situation.

You have tried your best to take care of your father.....now you need to take care of yourself.

First I believe you need to sit down and take a deep breath. Then you should really look at your financial situation and figure out how much you can afford for rent. Then, before you head out the door, get an idea of the area you would like to live in, and what the apartment needs to offer to fulfill your own needs.

Take your time looking, and take a friend who can be a second set of eyes and can think rationally when you can't. Discuss beforehand what you are looking for and what your needs are.

It's a shame you are need to move for peace of mind when you were having so much done in the place you reside now. Some families just can't cohabitate under the same roof. Sounds like you are making a wise decision, but select slowly. Don't be hasty to get something as soon as possible out of desparation.

Blessings, Debbie

I decided to move back to where my husband and I lived. That is, if I'm accepted. It's somewhat expensive, but close to my job and I know the area. I felt safter making a move back than to someplace completely different.

I hate doing this, but it is the only way. So let's do a total now. So far this year I've lost a husband, a bird, two dogs, and I feel like a father. Oh, well. How low can I go before I hit bottom? Thanks everyone for the advice.

so sorry you are having a hard time with your father, but moving back to where you were, feeling safe is a big one and I understand that-I don't want to move because of that reason also, being close to work is a plus and maybe that will help with the rent not having to spend money on car gas....good luck and I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers....hugs, Sandi

Well, the urge to keep trying to do things to try to make myself feel better is easing up a little, but I am still pretty sensitive about somethings.

I agree that you probably should try for short term leasing, just to get into a new place and give yourself a chance to figure out what you want and need. I am staying put in a 3 bedroom home, the one we bought 3 months before Scott was diagnosed. Wild horses wont' get me out of here though lately I have thought about moving, but not anytime soon.

I don't know if there are rules about what kind of place is for family v single v married. I know I'd feel odd in a cul de sac full of kids on bikes - and they'd think me pretty wierd too!

I guess house hunting is one thing that doesn't change when our lives change: when you walk in and feel like you are home, you probably are.

Hope it is going well for you - you deserve some peace.

hugs, Susan

Sounds like you went with your gut and did what was best for you at this time. You are strong and resilient and even if this turns out to not be the best choice, you acted to take care of you and you can do it again if you need to. You are a gutsy broad and will survive even this. KT

Instinct in people and animals often is the best solution.............you need out and you know it........hard enough to heal when in a "good place" mentally and physically..........so go to your safe place and rest.............
L