Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
My son had a game and awards ceremony at halftime. He said mom I’m inviting your sister in law be nice. Now she and I have not spoke since the funeral. She said many hateful things about me where she of all people should have known how we loved each other and how I stuck by him thick or thin. Now. Normally I ignore her. I don’t let her knock me off my square. She can run her mouth. I don’t care what folks say they gonna talk anyway but y’all don’t run my life It don’t revolve around them. I’m a lady I act accordingly. The last straw was when she ran her hateful mouth in front of her daughters. His nieces I’d help raise and felt like they were my own. I cursed her out something awful and repeated back to her every mean nasty thing she said about me threaten to call her out in front of the church at the funeral. I did that we buried him we haven’t spoke. I don’t say anything bad about her to my kids or anyone she irrelevant. So fast forward to game night. She comes to game at 4th quarter. She stand at the gym door. I see her. I pay her no mind. I continue cheering my son. I get home. I get a call. She was at the game hot and heavy texting about me thinking I’m all that. I didn’t speak to her. My daughter walked past her like she didn’t know her. I’m supposed to be the one keeping the family together. Now she meaning me not nobody wife and how my sister in law don’t care I’m no ones wife
After I stopped laughing because she nutty as a fruit cake. She never said anything truer in that last line I’m not anyone’s wife I’m a widow my husband is gone. And who does care but me. Obviously she do because she still biting my back out.
But I’m confident my husband loved me. Anyone who knew us knew I was his love and he was mine
She looks at me and she thinks I’m happy rich off brother insurance that I didn’t share with her. She don’t know about the fog. About the anxiety. That I can no longer plan a future. That I have three in college and no help. She also don’t know that insurance I didn’t share with her I shared with her husband and her kids. I figured if she was worth it they would share with her. They didn’t. Nuff said.
