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I lost my wife 4/21/18 to a car crash she was just

Majorbindguy40
Majorbindguy40

I all it’s been a while since I posted and I figured with how I’m feeling and with everything else I’m dealing with I need to let it out and get some feedback from people who understand what I am dealing with. 


So this was my first thanksgiving without Patrice and it was really hard for me. Ya my mom and sis and her boyfriend were over but it did not feel right with out Patrice. And I took the time to text my in-laws a happy thanksgiving and to be nice and let them know I’m thinking about them too. And only one person reply ty and same to you that was it. And I’m like really wtf I been apart of the family for 18 years and just 7 months after my baby my wife Patrice was killed this is how you gonna be. My feelings are all over the place anger sadness loneliness and all I want is Patrice but she is gone and I’m feeling so lonely and lost with out her. And it hurts even more that the people who were always around before her death have all stopped coming by or barrel talk to me anymore. And the biggest thing I hear is it’s been 7 months it’s time to start moving on and living again. I’m like it’s not that easy because for me Patrice was my everything and idk how anyone could get over losing there soul mate so fas or easily! 


And yes I’m still in grief counseling and on med for the depression and ptsd were I heard the crash and did not know till I got out there and went over and saw it was my wife and I still can’t get the site of that out of my head 

DJC
DJC
I keep saying to my self they don’t know about us. If they did they would understand there will never be another love. People say you don’t know what’s in your future. But they don’t know. I am still in love with a man who is no longer here. There was a magic we had no one will ever understand. For me the love was so big. The grief matches it. So I understand 7 months and you still feel it. My grief is still raw after 1 month. I can’t imagine the day it softens. I can’t look to the future. In my mind year 7 will feel like month 7. Painful. I pray for us both that I’m wrong. God bless and keep you.
Majorbindguy40
Majorbindguy40
Tysvm ya it’s a roller coaster ride of emotional feelings and some days I feel fine others I feel like it’s just like that moment when the Dr. came out and told me that they did everything they could but she was gone. And it seems to be every time there is a court hearing for the sob that hit and killed Patrice it’s like the emotional cut is reopened and on top of that having to deal with my in-laws well 3 of them and there bullshit don’t help. And add in the anger that if the medical records for the sob show he had no drugs or alcohol in him he is only looking at 3years wtf he killed my wife he should get life is how I feel
Mickey1965
Mickey1965
I guess it doesn't matter how long, it's been 22 months I lost my husband, and I'm having the same issues, "you need to move on, it's time to start dating" The people who I thought were my family and friends are gone. It's heart-breaking. I would never wish this upon anyone, but they'll never know how you feel until it happens to them.