Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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Cjjalone 01/02/2014

I do not dream often. But I had a dream last night that is still here this morning-and is painful. My husband was in my dream and talking to me. He asked me what I was going to do- if I was going to sit around and wait for him all the time. He told me he could not come back. I reached out to touch him and only got his clothes, then he went through a door and was gone. It hurts because he was somewhat tough on me and left me- and he would never do either of those things. Yet, I get the point of the dream. I'm trying- just knew you would understand. Cindy

barbarame 01/02/2014

It is hard to come to terms with death. If only it could be understood as not an ending but a new path which both souls need to take before being able to reunite. We have been blessed by having a companion along our earth lesson path - each soul must walk alone but the love that you have forged cannot be broken, and certainly is not taken from you. xxx

wendywillow 01/02/2014

It's tough - going on without them. Really tough. Our lives are never the same. But there is a reason why we're still here. And we need to continue living. Nobody knows what's around the corner and I think your dear hubby was just trying to encourage you.

Painful, yes. I do understand, but try to focus on the message. He wants you to live your life. Not spend it grieving.

Sending gentle hugs.
Oh, and I think Barbarame's reply was down-to-earth and just right!

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