you some how do function. i also lost my husband in a car accident this past march. Sometimes it still does not feel real. as far as my experiences honestly it sucks - there is a missing piece to yourself but you still need to function for everyone around you. a bit of advise take some time for yourself and do something just for you, it can be 10 or 15 minutes but that time to focus on what you need to get through was a life line for me. HUGS Laurie

Hello Taurus, I understand what you are saying. At times I can live day to day, but at other times it is hour by hour or even shorter. Be kind to yourself. Small steps. Blessings and Peace.. Mark

Dear Taurus,
Somehow as women (and Mom) we find the strength to carry on - to continue to provide for the family and look after their well being. Doesn't seem fair that you still are expected to function after the loss of a significant part of your life. Please take some quiet time for yourself in prayer, with a close friend, or alone (walking really helped me). There were days when I wanted nothing more than to lay down and never get up again but our children (to whom we are committed to care) need us. Know that this group is a safe place to cry, howl, or just plain reach out to an understanding ear. We're all members of an unfortunate club that we didn't ask to join and no one else wants to join. We're here for you. God Bless you!

I'm so sorry for your loss.... You are in my thoughts and prayer...we are here for you.
peace and much love ......Sandra

I don't know how we do it. But we keep going. We all have our reasons to get up in the morning. For me somedays it's the voice of my loved ones recalled in memory telling me to take care of what was left behind. To take care of our remaining family members.
I agree that you have to learn to take care of yourself as well. It has been 2.5 years and I am still learning. To better take care of those around us we need to be kind to ourselves.

One day at a time. Don't think about tomorrow at this point. Just get thru this day and take on the next when it gets here. There is no way to take all this in at once and keep your sanity. If you are a lady of faith get in it and stay there it will get you thru those days. One of the things you have to realize is this isn't something you ever get over you have to learn how to live with it. And everyone has to figure that out in their own way. Some may tell you it's time to let go or you need to move on, those are probably people who never have had to deal with this type of loss before. It is very different than any other. Most importantly is do what you need to take care of you and your kids. They will need their mom more than ever now. But while doing that don't forget you. But just be patient with yourself. Don't get anxious your not moving forward quick enough. There is no time limit because everyone is different. And allow yourself to grieve when you need to. Cry when you need to and get angry if you need to. What ever it takes.
Take care.
Peace, Tim

Hello,
I am so sorry for your loss. Accept help from family and friends, grieve as you need, and do what you have to to take care of youself. My wife and I were in a car accident in which she was killed. I spent 3 months out of work because of my injuries. I found myself barely functioning for the most part, doing only what was necessary at the time. All the plans we had for retirement are gone.
After 9 months I've had time to do a lot of thinking and am facing the fact that I'm lost without her and really have no direction at this point but neither am I on a time table. I guess I'm trying to find out who I am now without her.
Anyway, take it minute by minute, grieve for your loss and remember your children. Take care of yourself as best as you can. Others can't understand the loss we are going through so come here often. I visit here most every day but don't usually post.
Take care,
Kevin

I feel the same way lost