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ToMuchToBare
ToMuchToBare

Me and my wife of 30 year's has never been apart for more than 3 days... It's now been 6 weeks. I lost her because 3 young thugs decided to hold us at gunpoint, robbed us, hit me knocked me out and shot her in the back... She is the kindest, sweetest most loving wife, mother, sister the world has ever seen. I've never know life without her. I have no memories without her in them. My head is still numb from the injuries. Can't think, eat, no sleep. Everybody says"you have to be strong", I can't I lost my strength. I'm told"you need to try to stay grounded". She was my rock, my strength, the reason for wisdom, my love, my heart, my everything and every reason to live. I love our kids. They will be ok. I can't make any sense out of this..

Suz1491
Suz1491
I understand your pain and I'm beyond so sorry for your loss. I am close to my one year mark into my journey and I still struggle, we were married 21 wonderful amazing years and knew each other for 22 years. I will honest with you, some days I'm good and I can function, other days not so much, but when I attended widows camp, I learned this was normal and I wasn't alone. You can reach out to me anytime, I'm a good listener. Right now I'm reading a book I found at camp and it is helping. Take one day at a time, at your pace, no one has the right to tell you how to feel.
Cavewifelost
Cavewifelost
Oh my goodness, you poor man! I can't even imagine the horror of what you've been through. All of us here, though, have lost our husband/wife/partner, and many of us lost them suddenly and unexpectedly. I lost my own husband just eight weeks ago, so I completely understand what you're feeling right now. The people who are telling you to stay strong and stay grounded don't understand at all what you're going through and what you're feeling. They mean well, but they just don't understand. There are many people here who have children, so they can probably offer better advice than I can, but I want you to know that I do understand your pain. You've come to a good place. The people here have practically saved me over the last six weeks. You need to heal your injuries and you need to grieve, and you need to know that it's okay to grieve and that everything you're feeling is completely normal. I wish I had more to offer you in the way of advice, but I'm still just learning to walk this path. My thoughts and prayers are with you. <3 Anita
Kateydid123
Kateydid123
I am so sorry for what you went through. Even more for what you're going through. I like you, pretty much spent all my time with my beautiful wife. We were very inseparable almost to the point where our friends joked about it. Now I will almost have been with her for eight weeks. I sure wish I had the wisdom to give you any kind of advice, but you should've seen me today when I got home from work, walked in my home, and a couple of pictures, set on the couch and just cried like a baby and trying to figure out what do I do now. Anita said, we are so glad you made it to this site. All the friends, relatives, you name it, wouldn't have a clue of how you were feeling right now even though they mean well and they have big hearts. No one could understand this sick feeling on this they've walked in our shoes. Yeah ever want to talk, give me a chat. I read everything on this site each night around 9:30 PM California time. I love you Tracey. Dave