I am almost to six months and I still cant grasp the concept of him being gone always. but you will feel better eventually...I miss him like crazy and it hurts a lot..but I can function which is important since I have a toddler and baby to care for. enjoy the movie!

Nancy,

So sorry for your loss.
I have been here since Dec. 29th 2013, My husband passed of a Heart Attack on Nov, 10th 2013 and this is the best place to come to as far as I am concerned. the people here have helped me a great deal and I do still miss Stevan and it still hurts more than anything but I have gotten some good advice and friendship here. Everyone here knows the road that is being and needs to be traveled and there is nothing that can't be said or brought up here that will be judged. You must take your time and feel all the emotions and just let it come. Time is helpful to some , more time for others whatever you need you take and do.
Peace and Love to you
Laurie

I am so sorry for your loss; but welcome to this wonderful site where you will find many helping hearts. We've all been where you are now, some recently, some several years ago. Yes it does get better. Give yourself the time you need to feel whatever you need to feel. It's all ok. Come here as often as you need to. We'll walk with you. Blessings always. sharon

Nancy,
I am so sorry for your loss. It's been 9 months since I lost my husband and it is still so horribly painful. My husband started off with kidney cancer 12/2010 and thought we had beat it until 10/2012 when we found out it had spread to his brain and he passed away 04/2013. I live in southern Calif. what part do you live close to?
Kaye

I lost my husband Dec. 1, 2013 & sometimes it seems like it'll never get better. I miss him like crazy & I cry everyday and I still can't stand to be home on the weekends without him so I spend the weekends at my sisters house. This is a great site to come to & everyone is so kind & helpful.
Hugs to you

The fact that you are going to a movie is a good thing. I went to a movie about a week after my wife passed away. She had colon cancer and she has been gone 13 weeks. It has been excruciatingly painful at times. I have cried when I needed it. Just yesterday I posted about a terrible day I was having. The help I got from my friends here totally turned my day around. I expect to hurt for a long time but I have already proven to myself that I can find something good each day. For me I think if I allow myself to stay in the pits then that's where I will be. My wife helps me too in the sense that she was so brave and wanted me to be happy one day. I think she deserves my best. I love to talk about her so I have tried to find friends and family that will allow me to do that.
I want her back and would give anything same as you. I am having a positive night. I know it won't last but I one day I will have joy again. So will you.

((((Lots of Hugs))))

Robbie.

Nancy,

I'm sorry for your loss. I know your pain is hard right now. Know that your emotions will be up and down for a long time. That's ok, because you will have some days where you smile when you think of him, and other days when the memories make you sad. Hang in there.

Geminii74

I'm so sorry for your loss. But glad you found us. I'm at almost a year.
The first few months are the hardest, you are in shock. Things will get better, it's just gonna take time. Just remember to take care of yourself.

Diane

I absolutely PROMISE that you will feel better one day..... I do not know how long it will take for you to get to that day, but it will come. You are in the midst of many others who know what you are feeling and either are presently or have in the past felt the same way.
Losing your spouse is like having someone cut out your heart with a dull knife only worse.
This past sunday marked the six year anniversary of my husbands very unexpected death and I am fine. the pain is gone and just the good memories remain. That is not to say that I do not miss him because I do, every day. But my life is great and I am happy and to quote an old C&W song "I don't hurt anymore"!

Hello Nancy. My deepest sympathy to you. You will feel better, not right away, but as you talk about it to us, and let out all the pain. Healing time is different for everyone. Early on, sometimes for several months, you may still be in shock. The loss may not fully hit you, as your mind protects you, then slowly let's you grieve a little at a time, as much as your brain feels you can handle that particular day. Each time you let the tears come, you will be a step closer to accepting the loss and ultimately recovering. At 6 months, I still have some "I can't believe this has happened" moments, but there are far more days now that I feel interest in life, a sense of humor that was dormant for months has returned most days. The pain of the loss of our spouses will never leave us completely, but I can now smile about the great memories I have with Sharry, along with a varying degree of sadness, instead of feeling a knife in the heart, as you may feel the first few months into your loss. You may feel better for a day or two, and then some unexpected and sometimes unrecognized trigger may knock you back to your knees. Don't think you are regressing when this happens.It is completely normal. One day good, next bad, and around you will go, all part of the uneven grieving process. People around you may see you feeling better, then wonder why a week later you seem worse. Unless someone has been through spousal loss, they have no idea what you are going through. We do, and will be right beside you whenever you need us. Take care of yourself, try to eat a balanced diet, drink a lot of water, and try to exercise each day moderately. Get as much rest and sleep as you can. Robert

My prayers are with you as you travel this journey. It will be 6 months on January 27th. I didn't think I would make it, but thank God I found this site. It really helped me understand the many faces of grieving what to do. First and most important, it took much prayer and crying out. I journal my feelings and sometimes in my journal, I write Clint a letter. Weeping may endure for a night, but joy will truly come in the morning. Much comfort and peace be with you.